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Originally posted by Dazey:
It's the "developed into something more" part that I get lost on. I just don't see it. I just don't feel it. Speeches and proposals quite frankly don't mean s**t. What counts is the way Xander demonstrates his feelings toward Anya, and the sad fact is he consistently treats her as an embarrassment.
Exactly my feelings. Xander has always acted embarrassed by his relationship with Anya. From the beginning, it seems that he has had to make little or no effort to maintain his relationship with her. She threw herself at him, he made a weak effort to shew her away, but then he gave in to the freely offered sex.
Xander has been a bit of a lost soul since high school having to commit to nothing really, including Anya. His big "you make me feel like a man" speech in "Into the Woods" was nothing but words spoken behind closed doors. Publicly, he still treated her as if she was just some wacky chick who followed him around. When Xander proposed, Anya slapped him and said it was because he was afraid they were all going to die. Sadly, it appears she was right. He didn't want to tell anyone about it all summer and, after they did announce their engagement, he STILL treated her as an embarrassment. Now, when it comes right down to the big wedding day, what is Xander going to do? Leave Anya standing at the altar. To the very end, he could NEVER embrace her publicly.
Say what you want about Anya's odd quirks and blatant materialism, but she has always been publicly loyal, committed and supportive to Xander. She has always gone out of her way to let everyone know how attractive she found him, how good he was in bed, that no one else could have him because he was "mine." What did she ever do to deserve the mild disdain that Xander has always treated her with?
I am so interested to see what the writers do with Anya now. After Halfrek first appeared, it seemed to dawn on Anya that Xander treated her poorly in some areas. Now he's going to dump her on their wedding day. What future do they have together? I mean REALLY? I just don't see that they have some deep abiding love (ala W/T) to get them through. I think single Anya will be fascinating and I hope the show explores her character away from Xander, regardless of their ultimate plans for the couple.
Amy
[This message has been edited by Willowlicious (edited February 28, 2002).]
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