It's things your Parents do to surprise you Wed MKF 10/9

[WiccansIllusion]

Well, I'm moving at the end of the month and my best friends parents finally met my mother. And to say the least my mother is very surprising. I had always gone to a gay festival here in Chicago called Market Days, and the other day will at the meeting, my mother asks why I never invited her to that, or the pride parade. Go figure. Never thought she'd want to go.

Anyways, what have your parents done to shock the shit out of you to say the least?

Or...on a better note..


What have Willow and or Tara's parents done that you think might have surprised them in the past?

Aside from the obvious attempt at being burnt at the stake and labeled a demon...

[MaClayMagic]

Well, the main thing this year has been my father dying of brain cancer only 52 days after we were told he had it. THAT was a not so much a surprise as a shocker. Especially when he had heart problems and we would have expected that to finally take him away from us.
But on a happier note, my Mom suprised me 5 years ago when we were told by Stonewall that my American partner and I couldn't stay together in the UK because of the way the laws were then. My mom got on the phone and found us a lawyer! She wasn't exactly the most supportive of our being together, but she and dad came with us every time to see the multitude of lawyers that we went through for 5 years! And she was the one that screamed with excitement when she opened a letter for me and read that the law had changed in the UK and we fitted the time span! Parents are funny things, you just gotta love them even when they make you tear your hair out!

[Tulipp]

MaClayMagic, I'm so sorry to hear about your father; my thoughts are with you right now. Peace.

As for my parents surprising me, well....nothing they do really surprises me anymore. They are just wacky. It all started when my mother saved me the trouble of coming out to her by asking me if I was ever going to get around to it (coming out), and since then, well, I just observe the general surprisity.

[walker(d)]

Maclay magic, I am so sorry to hear that.

My Dad totally shocked me a couple of weeks ago. While he's fine with me being gay he just really, really doesn't like to talk about it. Ever. So when me and my girlfriend split up I didn't expect it to be talked about. How wrong was I. He took me out to the pub, bought me a pint and we had a really long discussion about relationships. Now he keeps asking me if I'm doing ok and how is the ex coping. She's coping by moving a few hundred miles away. It was such a nice surprise and he made it clear that I could come to him in future with any relationship problems. It was just so weird to be sitting with my Dad going, "Bleh, women.". But a nice weird.

[JulesP600]

Maclay magic so sorry

My parents are always suprising me. I don't know why really, I shouldn't be suprised any more.....

My Mum has suprised me most. She is an archaeologist, but not very good at communicating sometimes. Much happier digging in her trenches and various holes in the ground

My Mum has become a teacher, this is a suprise but I thought "Oh Well." Went along to one of her classes last year....she is a great teacher!

I must be a glutton for punishment as I have gone back to do the A-Level this year

[Arwen]

Maclay Magic, my thoughts are with you.

My father surprised me when he finally had the courage to leave my abusive mother. (I know, quite the turn around) He's quite old school, so he'd never admit to himself or anyone outside the family how much my mother hurt him and the family, but a few years ago he finally left her (after 25 years!) and now he's happily married to a very nice non-abusive woman who is continually shocking him day after day, because she treats him as an equal. It's very nice to see.

And I like to think of Willow and Tara being pleasantly surprised by Willow's supportive parents as I've read in several kitty fic's. Happy supportive parents are nice to read about. :-)

[poppyeleven]

MaClayMagic so sorry to hear about your loss.

my parents don't suprise me at all anymore...i just sit back and try and enjoy the general weirdness. such as when they are at a party or some kind of gathering and they aren't enjoying themselves or they don't like the company, they'll just look at each other and say 'comrade...' which is a reference to a Gough Whitlam quote that goes "Comrade...we are among savages". Gough Whitlam was a prime minister here in australia in the 70's for any kittens who are wondering. or there was the time when we were moving house when i was younger and they had both had enough of the bollocks that goes with moving and they ran out to the backyard and started running around in circles shouting WHOOP WHOOP and waving their arms much in the manner of john travolta and olivia newton-john at the dance off in Grease. they're really quite odd. bless them. heh.

[EffieBlue]

MaclayMagic, I'm really sorry for your loss.

The latest thing My mom did was ring me up and tell me she was coming to stay as her husband was going into respite care for a week.

My Mom has NEVER been to stay with me since I left home at 16 ...oh My God!! that's 28 years ago!!

she brought my 14 yr old nephew with her and he was quite facinated by all the Willow and Tara and Xena photos and pictures that decorate almost every wall in the house.

She once visited me for a day when I lived in London and when we were at the pub, she came back from the toilet and clipped me round the ear in front of all my friends...when I asked her what that was for, she said...The graffiti in the toilet, she recognised my hand writting!!

[KISMIC]

MaclayMagic so sorry to hear about your loss Condolences to the family.Hmm I've found that generally surprises from my parents are bad! But umm a good surprise that I get on occasion from my dad, who *hates* Buffy with a passion, is that he will just have bought me the Buffy magazine. May seem small but it costs around $6 over here and I can just imagine him lining up at the newsagents buying this "teen" magazine And my brother would just simply be him actually asking to borrow some of my Buffy videos so he had something to watch late one night - his comments: 'there's not enough violence', keep in mind that he is 21 not 10 : But a great surprise I got from both my parents was that when I caught the bus home from a Tafe course at 7pm they walked around to the bus stop, with my dogs no less, so that I wouldn't have to walk home, alone, in the cold and dark carrying my bag of books. Awww, why is it that parents are the people who can both hurt you the most and yet make you feel the most special as well!!In other news I have a bit of an odd/embarresing story to share. The other night I had a dream that I met:*drumroll* XITA!!Yep none other than our very own Moderator Fantstico. I have never so much as had a conversation with Xita, probably the closest I've come is having one of my posts moved by her or *hearing* her *once* on mic in chat But yes she was down in good 'ol Australia and I had my very own Xita Convention - *bright red with embarresment now* I was having photo's taken with her and getting her autograph and all. See proving that the Kitten Board does change peoples lives....I just can't figure out whether it's in a good or bad way *~Kristy~*

[mollyig]

My sympathies to you [b:a6a9a19f14]MaClayMagic[/b:a6a9a19f14]

My Mother once arranged for me to adopt a penguin from Dublin Zoo, knowing of my ever so slight obsession with penguins! That was a brilliant surprise.

[Tulipp]

Molly, did you have to share your room after that?

[mollyig]

Strangely the people at the zoo didn't accept my case that because I adopted the penguin that he or she should come live with me. [img:24f7e574f8]http://homepage.eircom.net/~mollyig/winkgreen.gif[/img:24f7e574f8]

[Willow Rocks]

My parents suprized me the mounth b4 my 16th i jokenly asked for a tatoo and they said yes, so i got my first (well only!) tatoo when i was 15, i still aint convinced them to let me get my nipple pierced though!

[Spice Faerie]

My parents have stopped suprising me. They were super cool when I came out and have continued to be so supportive. Then, when I went off to college they started smoking up with me. Then my mom asked me to help pick her out a glass bowl. Then, when I graduated my parents bought me a $365 tattoo as a graduation present and my mom asked me to design her a tattoo. THEN, just last week they both went out and bought brand new 100th Anniversary Edition Harley Davison's. My parents are just too cool for words. In light of all the crazy stuff they've done I don't think they could possibly suprise me anymore.

Spice

[Mrs Vertigo]

*brings on the funlessness*

This is the [i:e4364ddc98] not[/i:e4364ddc98] happy post in the thread, so dont read it if youre in a good mood .

My mom surprised me lately with quite the nastiness. She has a new boyfriend. Thats swell. Now, I know I sound like an aggravating little kid here, but not so much. Im really ok with that that she has a love life. Its cool with me. I dont think she should stop living or stop loving just cause she has kids. Thats never been the case. Shes always had boyfriends

Just that I always thought we had an agreement I pretend to hate all her partners with no exceptions whatsoever, thus releasing her from the need to regard my judgment because it is a well-known fact that its preset and prejudiced and has nothing to do with the actual quality of the man. That way she does not have to consider my preferences when shes dating. In return she keeps the relationship to herself, not discussing it with me or trying to involve me in it. To me, a complete privacy freak, that is the best scenario she has her love life and I dont have to have my face rubbed in it. Until now. Now everythings suddenly changed.

Three weeks ago she found a new boyfriend, and all of a sudden he freakin lives here! Hes constantly in the house, and I mean that in the 18-hours-a-day way. He sleeps here, eats here, wakes up here and his stuff are all over the place. He is in my face the entire time. Its impossible. I dont like the guy. Never did. Hes not family, I dont know him nor want to, and his constant presence is a complete breach of my personal space and privacy. I feel like Ive just been kicked out of the house. Never thought my mom would do that. Yuck.

And again, I know I sound like a little prissy girl starving for attention. But trust me, Im taking things in proportion. I just thought we had an understanding, but hey, big flashy NOPE! sign on that one. Surprise, surprise.

*rant over*

McLay Magic, my heart is with you. I'm sorry.

[MaClayMagic]

Thank you all for your thoughts winging their way to me, I really appreciate it. I haven't posted much but I have been on and off the board these past few months peeking in on everyone. Thanks again for your thoughts, you've shown more care in a few words than my mom's side of the family have since my dad died! You sure can pick your friends!!
Thanks EffieBlue for the giggle I got with your mom recognising your graffitti! Best wishes to all from me and mine.

[bowieinberlin]

Hmmm ... well I think the first big surprise came when I was 18, and my mom told me about her last magic mushroom experience... heh.

Then, recently I found out my dad was a pothead until I was about 9. Which finally explained a lot... [b:a059808779] Don't let those seeds pop so much![/b:a059808779]

And only last week, my mom started telling all her friends how cool she thought it was that I was going to move to Vancouver to make films. I think that shocked me more than anything since she's always wanted me to be an uppity college professor.

Additionally, I was able to get ahold of the OMWF soundtrack today. And no, I did not buy it OR pirate it. A friend of mine from the college radio station happened to have an extra promo copy, and since nobody there gave a crap, I got it.

[theatremouse]

quoth eliza doolittle "ain't got no parents"
and i mean it. it's true.
so, no real surprises to be had.
oh well.
whydathink i watch so much tv?
i'm really good friends with my best friend's parent though, so that's nice. but i cant think of anything supershocking. if i come up with anything i'll pop back and edit.
peace out.

oh and maclaymagic, i'm really sorry. i've been there. you can email me if ya need an ear, crosscomputer should or whatever.
peace.

[Kalita]

Sorry to stray from the flow of things, but I really did have to share something, and I've been sitting on it all day.

I VERY rarely remember dreams, and when I do they're the wierd 'n wacky variety. Last night was no exception.

I'm watching Buffy (weird enough in itself, as I never do anymore), and for some reason Mark Lutz is guesting as Groo (Cordy's ex-bf from Angel, FYI). There's a big demony-action scene, but I'm bored 'cuz there's no Willow or Tara.

So to spice it up, guess what happens? Groo saves Xander from the nasty demon, and the Xan-man plants a big wet one on the guy for his trouble. Wow.

So, even without the REAL stars of the show, I can still fit in the all-gay action. Go, my subconscious!

[relativegirl]

Hey [b:bb12ab073b] MaClay Magic[/b:bb12ab073b], I am so sorry about your dad. My mom died unexpectedly last August so I have some sense of how hard that can be. Dealing with the loss of a parent is a mountain of work all on its own; sometimes dealing with the rest of your family at such times is yet another mountain of work. Just make the time to be good to yourself and take it one step at a time. A big kitten hug to you.

And thank you [b:bb12ab073b] Walker[/b:bb12ab073b] for that priceless story about your Dad. It was really wonderful.

[xita]

Kristy, hee, you make me shy! I hope I was nice in the dream.

My dad surprised me when confronted with my sexuality he said, "I don't care, she's my daughter and I am proud of her"

[Annecy]

Hi Maclay Magic, just another virtual hug. Hang in there.

Re. parental surprises, my mom is shocking the hell out of me. My youngest brother plays/sings in a band (they are pretty good if I do say so myself -- gearing up to tour Europe pretty soon!) -- anyway -- he was so young when he started playing with his current band, maybe 18 and the others were all mid-20s. Mom was so upset that he was going to get into drugs or some such trouble. Maybe because none of that has come to pass in the last 5-6 years, she's loosened up about it.

So, I'm home to finish up my Ph.D. and staying with my parents for a month or so (yikes), and Mom asks me if I want to go to see the band play at a local club. I say OK, and head over there with my mom and my uncle (in her minivan -- how uncool.) So his band gets ready to go on, and my mom whips out her earplugs and heads RIGHT FOR THE FRONT ROW, where she proceeds to groove right along with the college coeds. I just stood there and stared a few rows back. My uncle said, "She always does that." It's worth mentioning that my mom is ultra straight-laced and certainly never went to a rock club before about a year or so ago. So, go Mom!

Annecy

[vix84]

bowieinberlin, [quote:879bc083f5][b:879bc083f5][i:879bc083f5]Quote:[/i:879bc083f5][/b:879bc083f5]

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recently I found out my dad was a pothead until I was about 9.

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I know exactly how you feel. I found out my dad had a huge afro in college (keep in mind that now he has short, straight black/grey hair...and not much of it). He belonged to all these radical anti-Vietnam War groups that stormed into the college Dean's office and surrounded him, refusing to leave. And they used to help conscious objectors escape from police. Oh, and he was a pothead too.

Now he's a bored Business Manager *sigh*.

[caged heart]

Just the other day my mom let me use her credit card (with the understanding that I'd pay back every penny, of course) to buy VIP tix to the Moonlight Rising convention. I was in paranoid mood a few days ago about it, so I had to buy tix right then. But neither me nor my girlfriend had enough $$ in the bank to cover 2 tix. So I jokingly said I could ask my mom to use one of her credit cards. But I really had no other option so I decided to give it a shot. I was so surprised she said yes! I even told her it was for tix to a Buffy convention. At first she gave me that, "You want to do what?" look, but then when I explained that I'd forgotten to pick up my check that day from work, etc. she said ok! I really do have the best mom in the whole world. I'm a totally spoiled child, and I know it.

[mscheckmate]

Big hugs to you, Maclay Magic.

My dad has surprised me by being completely supportive of my relationship with my gf. One time, I told my dad that I was going out to dinner with an ex-boyfriend from college. My father acted like I was having an affair. It was as if he was afraid I was going to dump the gf and go back to Boystown.

My mother, who does not approve of homosexuality, surprised me by voting no on California's Proposition 22, which effectively banned gay marriage. She actually told my sister that she thought the proposition was hateful.

[SJ]

Maclay Magic,sorry to hear about your Dad. Condolences to You and your Family.

[Yelowsub]

My Dad has always been there for me and I've had many comversations with him about gays and he has said that he would fully accept any of us (me and my siblings) if we were gay.

So now I know that I will have someone to fully support me when I come out.

I think that Willow and Tara's parents would have suprised them by coming to their wedding. Because they would see how much Willow and Tara are in love and how they are meant to be together.

[slayer747]

uhm, my parents are abroad. my mom surprises me by calling once every two months.

yeah, yeah, i know!