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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby molsongrrrl » Thu Jul 18, 2002 5:42 pm

interesting self quiz about destructive group behavior (or group paranoia)
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I haven't posted anything about the cliche ... or really much about Tara's death at all. I have strong feelings about it, but haven't felt compelled to post about it.

I am a kitten and proud of it. However, I do not suffer from group paranoia or destructive group behavior and I would hasten to say I don't believe that of this board in general.

My sister is not gay. She is really not a big Buffy fan, but we had a family reunion at the time "Seeing Red" was aired. She was very offended by the message she saw: good lesbian sex = death and madness.

I had never discussed this particular cliche with her -- but it didn't take much for her to note that many gay relationships seem to end that way in tv shows and movies. In fact, we ended up having a long coversation about it.

I have no problem with death on Buffy -- its a part of the show. I wouldn't have been happy watching Tara die anyway you look at it, but it would have been easier to stomach had it not happened in the middle of reunion sex with Willow. And sorry check the ep again -- they are clearly redressing after sex -- the comment about "look clothes" and "better not get used to em" shows this.

Plus, since Tara was going to die anyway (hell planned from the moment she started on the show) -- why not have her die at the hand of Glory -- refusing to tell her who the key is? Sure she dies but at least its noble and for a good cause.

Perhaps it was not ME's intention to have Tara's death be a cliche. Maybe they didn't think they were doing that. It doesn't matter, because whatever the intent -- perception is everything. Even my sister saw it.

I am tired of people coming to this board to tell kittens how they should feel about this and that. The board is dedicated to Willow and Tara. I mean you do get that right? Willow and Tara -- not Buffy, not Spike ...
molsongrrrl
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Kieli » Thu Jul 18, 2002 5:44 pm

[quote:61641cb637][b:61641cb637][i:61641cb637]Quote:[/i:61641cb637][/b:61641cb637]
I find it amazing that a group of people that are themselves publicly perpetuating a myth of evil wrongdoing on the side of ME and work actively to present their view of the matter to other people through many (outside) web forums and though the press, find it offensive if a person outside that group hears their statements, cares to disagree and let the group know that.
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I'm not sure if that is truly "caring" or just wanting to lecture sanctimoniously about how much of a higher plane of logic you may think you are. From what I've observed, you are already firmly entrenched in your own opinion and are only here to let us know that, and not necessarily to try to understand [i:61641cb637] our[/i:61641cb637] position.


[quote:61641cb637][b:61641cb637][i:61641cb637]Quote:[/i:61641cb637][/b:61641cb637]
I also find it amazing to read that logic (and thus any kind of sound reasoning) has nothing to do with the clich that you as a group have formulated. I also dislike that some are willing to use argumentation based on feelings that they accept as being outside logic (or irrational) to publicly denounce and second-guess other people (in this case primarily ME).- And even though you as a group on this board may not have called ME a bunch of lying, racist, homophobes yourself, you can not claim that you are totally without responsibility for such incorrect, disrespectful and unfair remarks.
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And I suppose you are NOT among the group that thinks that we are all over-reacting and there is no such thing as homophobia in the entertainment world. I don't see you going the other Joss centered boards and telling them that their arguments are spurious at best. So one wonders whom you are trying to kid. And it is only [i:61641cb637] your[/i:61641cb637] observation about whom is being disrepected, unfair and incorrect because so far I have not seen you argue anything to the contrary in a logical manner. You may point out flaws in argument but basically only to tell us how "wrong" we are about ME. That's not an open-ended argument...you have clearly chosen a side.

And who are you to tell US about destructive group behaviour? Are you a professional psychologist? Are you a professional psychiatrist? Are anyone other than someone who comes to this board to look down on us and NOT to understand our POV? If there are multiple answers of Yes to these questions, I have nothing more to add. You have spoken for yourself.
Kieli
 


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Postby RealitySpeaks » Thu Jul 18, 2002 5:46 pm

[xita] Actually, you are right. I wrote my reply - directed to earlier posts - before I saw your most recent post :-)

About the show facts your mention:

I do not know, but it is plausible, as you state, that she was kept on the show between eps9-19 of season 6 mainly (but not completely) with the intend that she should die. However, according to your own definition of the clich this does not mean anything (you clich is talking about introducing a gay character to solely for killing it, not keeping an existing character for an extended number of episodes and even if your FAQ did include this situation, Tara did have other things to do while being kept like helping Buffy with Spike etc.).

It is shown that Willow fastens a button next but sex or them getting up is not shown in the scene of Buffy in question (at least in the European version). You even have to look hard to see that it is in the bed room, as the bed is never directly in view. The last sex scene (or implied sex scene) WAS the day before, unless you have another version in the states.
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Postby xita » Thu Jul 18, 2002 5:50 pm

Wait, it isn't clear that they are in the bedroom? They are putting on their clothes? Where do you think they are doing this? In the hallway?

They've just had sex. That isn't a figment of our imagination. They established a patter since their reunion. Willow and Tara were having lots of sex, they had no desire to be out of bed or out of each other's embrace, they wanted to lie naked making love till they had made up for all the months apart. The next morning we are supposed to assume that inspite of the fact that they have just been naked, they weren't having sex? No, they were having sex, putting on their clothes to go down stairs, which I am sure is not what they really wanted to do. Their responsibilities led them away from doing what the show had explained they wanted to do, lay down on that bed again and ravage their bodies with all the love in their souls.
xita
 


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Postby Kendahl897 » Thu Jul 18, 2002 5:55 pm

Aw c'mon..That one was weak..It is clearly the bedroom, as anyone who watches the show knows, and it is obvious from the banter and the fact that Willow is getting dressed that they are dressing for the day, with Tara telling Willow not to get used to her clothes, they've just gotten back together and spent the entire episode having sex. It's not hard for anyone who watches to conclude that they didn't spend the night crocheting in bed...
As for the cliche, when even a writer (David Fury)can see it in hindsight, it's hard to make the argument that it's not there....
Give me an honest answer to an honest question..Would you not feel betrayed if Joss told you over and over that he had no plans to kill your favorite character, and then turned around and did it anyway?
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Postby relativegirl » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:15 pm

[quote:cda1d2e029][b:cda1d2e029][i:cda1d2e029]Quote:[/i:cda1d2e029][/b:cda1d2e029]
It is shown that Willow fastens a button next but sex or them getting up is not shown in the scene of Buffy in question (at least in the European version). You even have to look hard to see that it is in the bed room, as the bed is never directly in view. The last sex scene (or implied sex scene) WAS the day before, unless you have another version in the states.
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:rollin :lol :rollin
oh this is priceless! just priceless! I haven't laughed so hard in a long long time. Thank you Reality Speaks, thank you for exposing your boundless ignorance about life for our endless amusement. Cause your post is truly one of the most amazing I have ever read on the Kitten. : lol :rollin
relativegirl
 


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Postby Epicurus » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:26 pm

RealitySpeaks said:
[b:fa013b1dfc]And even though you as a group on this board may not have called ME a bunch of lying, racist, homophobes yourself, you can not claim that you are totally without responsibility for such incorrect, disrespectful and unfair remarks.[/b:fa013b1dfc]

We as a group are suppose to be responsible for MEs branding of being homophobes liars and racists because of our indirect implications yet you can not see our point that ME is responsible for the indirect implications that all lesbians are dead murders or evil because of what they have shown us in the show.

What Id like to know is this:

[b:fa013b1dfc]How does the clich FAQ affect you personally? [/b:fa013b1dfc]

Cause all I see is a fan who feels the need to defend ME and in that case I couldnt give a shit about your argument.
Epicurus
 


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Postby RealitySpeaks » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:31 pm

Quick answers to some of your questions:

Favorite character?: Willow (both dark and red) ?

Favorite romantic couple?: Willow/Tara or Buffy/Angel (undecided)

Next couple I would like to see in season 7?: Willow/Xander or Buffy/Xander (undecided).

Never really that much a fan of?: Spike, Oz

Would I feel betrayed if ME killed my favorite character?: No, but I might be less interested in the show.

Am I trying to appear more clever than I really am?: Yes, definitely.

Am I writing this to lecture sanctimoniously?: No, but I guess my style of argumentation may cause this to be misunderstood.

Do I have a similar strong opinion? Yes, but I am open to being proven wrong.

Am I accusing this group of being paranoid?: No, but I am making a point and a warning.

What do I want?: A stop of political (especially irrational) correctness. Creative freedom to ME etc. A good season 7 of Buffy Finally more lesbians on TV would be ok too, as long as there is no special treatment (positive or negative).

Why am I making so many spelling mistakes (like a few other Q above I made this up since you people are to nice to ask)?: English is not my native language.
RealitySpeaks
 


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Postby Rally » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:31 pm

[quote:1595b2aeb2][b:1595b2aeb2][i:1595b2aeb2]Quote:[/i:1595b2aeb2][/b:1595b2aeb2]
(you clich is talking about introducing a gay character to solely for killing it, not keeping an existing character for an extended number of episodes and even if your FAQ did include this situation, Tara did have other things to do while being kept like helping Buffy with Spike etc.).
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I must have missed the part of the clich FAQ where it said that lesbians had expiration dates.
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Postby Ben Varkentine » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:36 pm

Is it possible that the version of "Seeing Red" that he saw was edited and therefore made the place and time (meaning post-sex) of Tara's death less clear? As I understand it, British TV, for example, often does cut more things, especially if the show is (rightly or wrongly) percieved as being for teenagers. Any Euro-kittens know?

I don't tend to agree with Mr. Speaks, but this *may* not be "stupidity" on his part. Just thought I'd raise the question.
Ben Varkentine
 


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Postby xita » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:40 pm

You would like to see Willow/Xander?

Well, I think clearly that point something out for me. Willow is a lesbian, you know that right? But maybe that is why you are so willing to make this situation go away, because you want a straight Willow.
[quote:697802a3d5][b:697802a3d5][i:697802a3d5]Quote:[/i:697802a3d5][/b:697802a3d5]

What do I want?: A stop of political (especially irrational) correctness. Creative freedom to ME etc. A good season 7 of Buffy Finally more lesbians on TV would be ok too, as long as there is no special treatment (positive or negative).

[/quote:697802a3d5]
Me has a right to do whatever they want. And they do. And we have a right to not like it and speak against it. It isn't comperable, but no one would allow African Americans being lynched on TV. There are things that are unacceptable in society. And yes we want no special treatment either, but guess what? We get it too.

More than a year before we got a kiss, a single kiss. Do you realize that? THey were a couple involved in a relationship for over a year before we got to see a kiss. And it was 3 years before we saw them in a sex scene. I want fairness too. And more lesbians on tv would show that. But everyone is going to have to deal with the fact that Willow and Tara were televisions only long term lesbian couple and as such reflect everything about lesbians on tv. And you know what? I put up with it, explained it away and cut ME slack because I felt the greater good was w/t were allowed to be in love and happy. But you know when they took that away then I couldn't put blinders on and excuse the double standards anymore.
xita
 


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Postby Wiccagrrl313 » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:43 pm

[b:3fd75b01c3] Would I feel betrayed if ME killed my favorite character?: No, but I might be less interested in the show.[/b:3fd75b01c3]

Yes, but that wasn't exactly the question. The question was
[i:3fd75b01c3] " Would you not feel betrayed if Joss told you over and over that he had no plans to kill your favorite character, and then turned around and did it anyway?" [/i:3fd75b01c3]

Or, say, if he said the relationship had turned out to be the most important thing they'd every done on the show. Or one of the writers said that the writing crew was very hyper aware of the negative message going a certain direction with a storyline would send, and then they decided to go there anyway, message be damned.

No one forced anyone at ME to make those statements. No one forced them to handle the storyline in this particular way. No one is saying that it isn't their right to do whatever they want with the storyline. Or say whatever they want. But get this clear: It is *my* right to be offended by it. It is my right to *say* I'm offended by it. It is my right to say I don't choose to support a writer or producer or company that would midlead the fans this way, that would take credit for the positive social impact their stories/words/actions have and then claim no social responsibility for any negative impact it might have.

ME can do whatever the heck they want. I don't have to like it, and I don't have to be silent about not liking it.
Wiccagrrl313
 


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Postby Dave V » Thu Jul 18, 2002 6:52 pm

How many times do I have to say it? I was merely upset when Tara died. I became bitter and angry when Mutant Enemy GLOATED about their lies and MOCKED people's pain. It's just a matter of respect, eh?

W/X? Please, spare me.
Dave V
 


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Postby friskylez » Thu Jul 18, 2002 7:35 pm

WT=awards/praise=not going anywhere=lies..
Tara=lesbian=sex=shot thru the heart and Joss to blame..

Reality Speaks, You may not "buy into" the lesbian cliche and thats your perogative, but if you cant see why people are angry and pissed off that this all had to happen the way it did, then perhaps youd better walk in our shoes before, coming here to tell us how we should or shouldnt feel...
friskylez
 


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Postby hilarita » Thu Jul 18, 2002 9:59 pm

logical arguments. check.

i believe that the cliche was not meant to have a singular definition, as most social phenomenon do not have single definitions. introducing a gay character to kill them, linking the death of the gay character with sex, and showing that gay relationships dont work out are all ways of perpetuating the cliche. it is only a cliche because it happens over and over and over again.

can a gay character be killed outside the cliche? i think so. the point is whether or not the death is linked to the sexuality, and there are a variety of ways of linking sexuality with a death.

one is to link it directly: to juxtapose the death with an act of sex, either in time, or in presentation. if the audience is meant to think of the sex act and the death in the same string of thought (ie, the death was in the bedroom, following sexual banter, minutes after a sex scene was shown, as was the case with willow and tara) then it is creating an association between death and gay sex. this perpetuates the idea that homosexuality is bad. this perpetuates the cliche.

another way is to kill a gay character or couple existing as the only example. if i were to write a movie and there was only one lesbian and i killed her, this is likely perpetuating the cliche. the audience is able to identify the character as the lesbian because she is the only one, and if she dies, regardless of how many other characters die, the audience will know that *all* the lesbians died. this also happens to be the case with willow and tara, they were the only long term same sex network relationship, so when they were destroyed, all healthy same sex relationships on network tv were destroyed. people are able to associate the lesbian couple with death and destruction, regardless of what all the other characters do, because all the lesbians died or went crazy. this too is perpetuating the cliche.

so how do you avoid the cliche? stop avoiding same sex relationships. there are a hell of a lot more gay people out there than the media represents. if there were more lesbians on tv with actual relationships, people would have somewhere else to go. willow and tara were the only ones. ergo, nothing you do to them is equal treatment. if there were more gay characters- some that lived, some that died, some that went crazy, some that rode happily off into the sunset- then there would be no cliche. but we're talking about the *vast, vast* majority of lesbian characters ending up dead, crazy, or miserable. when you get me a ratio of happy lesbians to dead lesbians that looks anything like the ratio of happy heteros to dead ones in the media, i will shut up. but not until then.
hilarita
 


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Postby urnofosiris » Thu Jul 18, 2002 10:21 pm

[quote:073d7506d7][b:073d7506d7][i:073d7506d7]Quote:[/i:073d7506d7][/b:073d7506d7]
It is shown that Willow fastens a button next but sex or them getting up is not shown in the scene of Buffy in question (at least in the European version). You even have to look hard to see that it is in the bed room, as the bed is never directly in view. The last sex scene (or implied sex scene) WAS the day before, unless you have another version in the states.
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Hum, well you call yourself realityspeaks. Reality is that their last scene did take place in the bedroom, right after they had sex. You do make another point for us btw: [i:073d7506d7] implied[/i:073d7506d7] sex scene. The one at the start of seeing red was an after sex scene, the one at the end an implied sex scene. They were getting dressed in the middle of the day [b:073d7506d7] in the bedroom[/b:073d7506d7]. Tara had apparently put on Willow's shirt, as we all know, whatever for? It implies 'just had sex' to me. Implies but not shows. Never shows. Up until seeing red any implied WT sex was via magical metaphors, flaming and floating O spells, only in Seeing Red do we see something that surpasses the metaphor, but it is still not an actual sex scene. The one that came close where Willow dives under the covers got cut. So that is the point you help make. WT sex is implied, unlike Buffy/Angel Buffy/Parker Buffy/Riley Buffy/Spike, but I guess we should just be grateful for the equal treatment we got in this case as well. It is not as if it was ME's fault right? It was the censors. If ME had their creative way I am sure they would have given us something before and not waited till the same episode they blew Tara away in. We're just unlucky that their artistic creativity only gets thwarted when it comes to WT.

[quote:073d7506d7][b:073d7506d7][i:073d7506d7]Quote:[/i:073d7506d7][/b:073d7506d7]
Am I accusing this group of being paranoid?: No, but I am making a point and a warning.
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A warning? What for? Are we in danger? I have to say I've really lost your point somewhere along the line. You have not made any arguments that successfully counter this FAQ as far as I can see.


[quote:073d7506d7][b:073d7506d7][i:073d7506d7]Quote:[/i:073d7506d7][/b:073d7506d7]
What do I want?: A stop of political (especially irrational) correctness. Creative freedom to ME etc. A good season 7 of Buffy... Finally more lesbians on TV would be ok too, as long as there is no special treatment (positive or negative).
[/quote:073d7506d7]
So we are irrational. Duly noted. Glad to hear you think more lesbians on tv would be ok, but no special treatment? Well if what we got was equal treatment I don't even want to know what special treatment would be like in the eyes of Joss Whedon.

What I would want is to live in a world where being gay would not be an issue, I am fortunate to live in a country that is getting there. If gay people had the same rights and would not be at risk of getting the crap beaten out of them for being gay, then how they are represented on tv would not be as big a deal as it is now, but now it is, deny it all you want, the media [b:073d7506d7] does[/b:073d7506d7] influence the way people think, especially when it comes to things they have little or no first hand experience with themselves. If straight people -who don't know any gay people or who already tend to be homophobic- only ever watch evil, sad, pathetic gays on tv they are not likely to think better of them. If gay people who know no other gay people and who are brought up to believe they are evil for being gay only ever see evil, sad, pathetic gay people on tv, those people are not likely to feel more hope or love for themselves.

This is not an assumption, it is a fact, WT have proven it, up until they destroyed them WT gave hope, WT changed the way others thought about gay people and themselves. We know because many of those people post here or have written to Joss Whedon and Amber and Aly. We know the good WT did, and we have praised and thanked ME for it, and no one was coming here telling us not to thank them, so why is anyone coming here to tell us not to criticize them now when they have destroyed what was so good and special? The destruction of WT has caused considerable pain. That is a fact as well, and saying it is part of life just does not cut it, that argument would excuse anything at all.


[quote:073d7506d7][b:073d7506d7][i:073d7506d7]Quote:[/i:073d7506d7][/b:073d7506d7]
Why am I making so many spelling mistakes (like a few other Q above I made this up since you people are to nice to ask)?: English is not my native language.
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Your spelling skills are not an issue. There are quite a few people here for who English is not the native language. People here are from many different countries, and in most of those countries, unlike let's say the Netherlands or Denmark, gay people do not have the same rights as straight people do. Gay people cannot get married to the ones they love, they are however more likely to get fired, beaten up, killed even, for who they love. That's life too as I am sure you know.

Now 'irrational political correctness' and/or the protestations of the (gay) people of this board about this storyline and the treatment of gays and lesbians in the media in general may make you uncomfortable or annoy you, but I have a feeling that if gay people had just kept their mouths shut all the nice heterosexual people in the Netherlands and Denmark would not have bothered to change the laws that prohibited gay people from getting married. Why would they, it did not affect them. When something is not right it almost never magically fixes itself.

I really have lost the point you were trying to make, but if it is to say we should just shut up about it then, not sorry, but that is [b:073d7506d7] not[/b:073d7506d7] going to happen not even if you post a million times. Now like I said in my earlier post, if anyone wants to make counter arguments to the things stated in this FAQ, go for it, give it a try, but please do bother do get your facts straight (yeah yeah, no pun intended blah blah), if the argument is just to say 'accept it and move on' then don't bother, that just will [b:073d7506d7] not[/b:073d7506d7] happen.
urnofosiris
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby maudmac » Thu Jul 18, 2002 11:33 pm

Excellent post, [b:ee1055085c] G[/b:ee1055085c]. Where does the baby line start? ;)

I have to wonder what someone must really want when they call for an end to political correctness. While I would be willing to concede that there have been instances in which the lengths to which people went in the name of political correctness resulted in utter absurdity, my personal opinion is that political correctness, rather than having gone too far, actually has not gone far enough.

While American society has made great strides toward fairness and equality for all its people, it remains perfectly acceptable, in fact [i:ee1055085c] desirable[/i:ee1055085c], to deny GLBT folks the same rights afforded to straight folks in areas such as marriage, adoption, inheritance, housing, jobs, next-of-kin rights, etc. Furthermore, we're targets for bashing everywhere we go and are often underserved by law enforcement and the legal justice system when we are victimized.

We are one of the few minorities it's still okay to hate. Politicians can openly advocate denying us rights based solely on our sexual orientation and not only still get elected, but be lauded as heroes for standing up to the people who are clamoring for "special rights." (As the bumper stickers so clearly state: [b:ee1055085c] Equal rights are NOT special rights![/b:ee1055085c]) Television shows can show characters using "gay" as a synonym for "silly" or "stupid" without fear of a public outcry. (Imagine a term used to describe another minority substituted for "gay." That wouldn't fly for one second.) Networks can pressure producers of television shows to limit the intimacy shown between same-sex couples and there's little outrage from most viewers, advertisers, and the public at large.

Political correctness encourages people to be sensitive. This is bad somehow? It has caused people to listen to their own speech, examine their own attitudes and behaviors, look themselves in the eye, and then face the reality of people different from them, even if only for a moment. (Incidentally, this is also exactly what the FAQ has done.)

I hope I live to see a day when we no longer need political correctness. But until we've achieved complete equality, political correctness still has some work to do.
maudmac
 


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Postby relativegirl » Fri Jul 19, 2002 6:15 am

Brava [b:4cee2ec232] maudmac[/b:4cee2ec232]! :bounce And when you're done having Garfield's babies, can I have yours? Not quite sure how we swing that one, but I'm sure you'll think of something. :)
relativegirl
 


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Postby urnofosiris » Fri Jul 19, 2002 6:26 am

Well you'd have to swing it the same way I would have to, heh. Just give medical science a few more years and we just might manage it. So, Maudmac, if you think my DNA is good enough you're welcome to it. Just come and get it while you can. :p
urnofosiris
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby IvanovaDV » Fri Jul 19, 2002 7:49 am

The point is not that fictional lesbians are dying/ going insane/ becoming evil/ or unhappy ever after (yes, it is a matter of interpretation of how much you broaden your interpretation of the clich). Many, many more straight people are dying/ etc. in the movies. That's because many, many, many more straight people are depicted in films/ on tv.

The friggin' difference is that they are balanced by many, many more living, happy, or more or less happy/ functional straight characters.

You want data, [b:abbcc6fb39] Reality Speaks[/b:abbcc6fb39]? So do I. Please show me that, in relation to the unhappy etc. gays and lesbian characters, there are just as many more happy etc. ones. Please supply name of movie/ tv show and characters. Thank you.

P.S. Sorry if this has already been mentioned, I was too impatient to read the last page of this thread now.
IvanovaDV
 


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Postby Sheridan » Fri Jul 19, 2002 8:03 am

Ok [b:84bbc61412] Realityspeaks[/b:84bbc61412] instead of banging on about the FAQ why don't you put up your view of S6, explain to us why this was a good plot line, explian to us how it was a great use of the characters. To put the Kitten postion succinctly we are fans of W/T as as relationship ans as characters, we are upset about the end of season five and mad about how we were misled. The lesbian members of the Kittens have the additional and, as far as I can see, legitimate grievance that this plotline perpetrated a hackneyed cliche. Whether that was the intention is irrelevant, it was the result they produced. If you don't like this viewpoint well this isn't some cult you can leave anytime you want. A big part of what the Kitten board provides is a support mechanism for people to whom Willow and Tara were a rare positive role model, sof forgive us if logic isn't our number one priority.
Sheridan
 


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Postby ari23 » Fri Jul 19, 2002 8:28 am

One little point, RealitySpeaks.. you say

[quote:12c4de4513][b:12c4de4513][i:12c4de4513]Quote:[/i:12c4de4513][/b:12c4de4513]
What do I want?: A stop of political (especially irrational) correctness. Creative freedom to ME etc. A good season 7 of Buffy Finally more lesbians on TV would be ok too, as long as there is no special treatment (positive or negative).
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ME has creative freedom, don't they? As far as I can tell, the only way their creative freedom has been hampered is by the censors. I'm a big proponent of freedom of speech - it's not as though writers shouldn't be [i:12c4de4513] allowed[/i:12c4de4513] to kill off gay and lesbian characters. It's that freedom of speech and creative freedom should also carry with it a sense of responsibility. I don't think writers should be forced to do anything. But for a group that seems so aware of the good they've done for the lesbian community, they should have been aware of how killing Tara in the way they did would have negatively affected that community. So that's what upsets me. That they either failed to realise that there's a matter of social responsibility at hand, or realised what was going on and ignored it. Just my view on creative freedom.
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Sheridan » Fri Jul 19, 2002 8:46 am

[b:40d5694f03] Realityspeaks[/b:40d5694f03] Creative freedom has to be matched with creative responsibility. Isn't there an onus on ME to look at the impact of their work? If they decided to turn Gunn into a crack addicted street robber would that be ok in the interests of creative freedom or would that be unacceptably perpetrating a stereotype? I also notice you want Willow with Xander, now that truly would be cliched, Willow isn't really a lesbian she just needed the love of the right man to straighten her out? Oh please.
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby urnofosiris » Fri Jul 19, 2002 9:20 am

[quote:21b93768e4][b:21b93768e4][i:21b93768e4]Quote:[/i:21b93768e4][/b:21b93768e4]

Ok Realityspeaks instead of banging on about the FAQ why don't you put up your view of S6, explain to us why this was a good plot line, explian to us how it was a great use of the characters.

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Actually don't. This thread is about the FAQ, the rest of season 6 and this story arc falls outside the scope of this thread, any such comments can go into the (angry) rant thread. We can discuss the points of the FAQ to which we may have to add:

Will we just shut up and move on?

No
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Sheridan » Fri Jul 19, 2002 10:37 am

Sorry [b:0283b93c94] DrG[/b:0283b93c94] really only mean it rhetorically. :)
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby kyraroc » Sun Jul 21, 2002 10:32 am

RealitySpeaks -

You state the "the cliche is defined in 2/3 different ways". If you don't mind, I'll try to clear this up for you; the dead/evil lesbian cliche is the overwhelming tendency in the media that fictional "lesbians and, specifically lesbian couples, can never find happiness and always meet tragic ends." This seems to me to be spelled out clearly in the answer to question two.

Question one is not meant to provide a specific definition of the cliche, but to provide a general background and history for it in related to other media cliches. That's why question one talks about the cliche "generally" and question two defines it "specifically". "The death of a lesbian character [being] associated directly with the act of lesbian sex", raised in question 3, is an example of one typical way the cliche often occurs, but is again not a definition of the cliche itself. That is why it is talked about as being an "overused feature", "usually" occuring, etc., rather than being defined as the cliche itself within the question. I am sorry if you had trouble understanding this from the FAQ itself.

I am a little confused by your statement that if the cliche is media lesbians never finding happiness and always meeting tragic ends, then it is too broad because "this must mean that all lesbian couples must be happy and never die or go crazy (unlike all other couples)"; in other words, if I am not misinterpreting you - your wording was a bit confusing - you seem to argue that any media lesbian couple which experiences momentary unhappiness could be fit into the cliche. Or possibly you meant that no lesbians that did find momentary *happiness* could be fit into the cliche. At any rate, even if this were what was meant, it still wouldn't mean that all lesbian couples must be permanently happy to avoid being cliche; a cliche is broken by showing a balanced portrait across the media landscape, not by switching to the polar opposite cliche - in other words, it is not a cliche if lesbians on TV end up dead or crazy as long as there are also a credible number of examples of those who don't; this idea is covered extensively later in the FAQ. But in any case, you paint a rather strangely broad picture of what those words what mean given what those words are; surely there is an obvious difference between momentary unhappiness and "a tragic end". Lesbians can easily have a hard time of it under this definition without fitting into the cliche.

At any rate, the actual definition of the cliche makes the bulk of your argument - namely, that the actions on Buffy don't fit into the cliche because they were unintentional by the authors and/or they did not follow sex - largely irrelevant, whether or not they are accurate, which is, as you have seen, definitely a debatable point. The idea that intentions do not matter, only results, is also covered extensively later in the FAQ, and whether or not the death took place right after sex is an important side issue, since it adds some evidence to the case for a cliche, but a side issue all the same in terms of the main facts.

Moving on, you also state:

"By composition, the FAQ lacks . . . a strict logical system with a coherent argumentation as a basis for its conclusion."

Well, I will point out that this is a FAQ, not an essay. It is designed to answer a variety of related questions and provide information on a variety of related points dealing with a single subject, not to present a single thesis and provide supporting evidence and defense for it. It is further designed to do so in a manner that was as "stripped down" and easily scannable by the casually interested reader as was reasonably possible, not to present the most in-depth possible critical analysis (which would have easily been five times as long.) If you wish to read an essay on any of the subjects contained within the FAQ, several excellent ones have been written. You can find a few of them on the board in various threads.

At any rate, the FAQ's form - an assemblage of a variety of evidence, arguments, and information rather than a single coherent argument relentlessly studied to the fullest possible extent - is in fact suited to its purpose, and not a detriment.

Naturally, as you point out, this makes it "very hard to argue for or against it in an objective (scientific) way." This is because, once again, a FAQ is merely a series of related questions and answers, and was never intended to present a single "point" for debate. It is, of course, entirely possible to argue that the answer to any given (or all given) questions in the FAQ are incorrect, and some people have taken exception to one or more sections. But this is the only reasonable way to approach the matter; arguing against the FAQ as a whole is a meaningless excercise, because rather than being one side of a debate, it is a streamlined set of a variety of associated topics with a range of arguments from the emotional to the factual depending on the individual section. Your arguments against its form and structure therefore strike me as again largely irrelevant to what it actually is.

Moving on once more to a few final matters -

I cannot see how we are responsible for OTHER people accusing ME of being racist, sexist, and homophobic when we have not done so. Huh?

I find it extremely disingenuous of you that you take the words of one for the words of all and seem to regard us as having some kind of monolithic single opinion about these matters. If someone says something you believe incorrect or unwarranted, please address your response to that person rather than implying that everyone here shares their ideas and is attacking you. You have done that on several occasions.

And, finally, I must admit that is a continual surprise to me that people come to a Willow/Tara relationship fan board and express outrage that dislike is expressed towards sentiments contrary to Willow/Tara relationship fandom. Honestly, did you really expect not to raise any ire?

--- KR
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Sela » Sun Jul 21, 2002 4:19 pm

Can I just say that you ROCK HARD, kyraroc? Sharp, clear, and to the point.

--Sela
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby JOSSISCOOL » Sun Jul 21, 2002 8:48 pm

This is getting so out of control. Dont you think this is rediculous. Buffy is part of some evil plan to detroy and persecute minorities and gays. come on
are you pointing your finger at the right thing?
dont think so.
JOSSISCOOL
 


Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby Rally » Sun Jul 21, 2002 9:04 pm

Hmmm I just think some people need to learn to use their spell checker first and get their facts straight second.
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Lesbian Cliche FAQ - Final (tentative)

Postby emma peel » Sun Jul 21, 2002 9:07 pm

Rally, you rock!! :grin

Janice
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