Gaydar Discussion Thread

[Shadow]

So tell me one thing... if you and your best friend (both girls) spend a month kissing every chance you get... how can she possibly not be gay? she even said i kissed better then her boyfriend and that she gets lost in my kisses! but she's not gay!



so... am I the only one confussed here?



Help.



Shadow

We don't need lists of rights and wrongs, tables of do's and don'ts: we need books, time and silence.

Thou shalt not is soon forgotten, but Once Upon A Time lasts forever.



Philip Pullman

[xita]

How old is this girl? She could be experimenting, or she might really be gay or bi. Hard to say but you really have to go at her word for now when she says she's straight. She'll behave as such in public and never give you what you really need. She needs time to sort that in her head but until she does don't expect more from her than what you are getting.

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blonk, blink, blong

[Cicca]

Cherry Merry Muffin.

That rang no bells, so I had to go look.

I was thinking something along the lines of Strawberry Shortcake. I may have been wrong!

Is this who you mean?

She looks like baby Charo!



And I'm still wondering about cherries. Am I saying something about myself without realizing it because I have cherry sheets? Enquiring minds!



Oh, as for gaydar, I just have wishful thinking.

“Spirit of Sappho, ... I summon you. Come fill me with your big, dykey power!” ~ Final Exam by Tommo

[3peanuts]

Oh God, Cherry! Thank you: that was so touching!



Well, yeah, I found her very attractive: she had those silky smooth legs and blonde hair that drove me crazy...anyway I was five. My taste in women has improved: now I like silky smooth legs, blonde hair and leather



And this:"Oh, as for gaydar, I just have wishful thinking. " was a touch of genius!



Thanks again...

"Cunning linguist" GG

Keynes was right

[Cicca]

heehee

I'm glad to hear you've moved on!



Now I'm picturing Charlize Theron in leather.

That's working for me.



As for wishful thinking.... A girl can hope!

I ran into a former crush today and she's very pregnant. Which neither confirms nor denies my hope that she was hugely gay. Her hot friend made me tip toward "she's so gay!"

The lack of any touchy-feely vibes between them? Well... I'm ignoring that!

“Spirit of Sappho, ... I summon you. Come fill me with your big, dykey power!” ~ Final Exam by Tommo

[slayer747]

i dunno, but i still believe in the "gay vibe"... i mean, somehow, people get the aura that two girls are not just friends you know? or maybe it is not really the "gay" aura that we should look for... maybe we should try to see the "love" aura going on...

"part of forever is better than none"

[Cicca]

Ahhhh, you've got that right.

The love vibe



Ok, I didn't actually notice much of a love vibe going on with these women. Hmm.

Yum? Yep, there was a yum vibe!

“Spirit of Sappho, ... I summon you. Come fill me with your big, dykey power!” ~ Final Exam by Tommo

[slayer747]

yum vibe? hehe.



anyway, i read shadow's post, regarding the girl who kissed another girl a lot (sorry, i have no better way of putting it... ), in my opinion, i would have to agree that maybe the girl is just experimenting or something close tothat. But we as gay people, are not the ones to actually say if another one of our friends or acquaintances are gay or not. it is a decision that they have to make for themselves. For example, I have been going out on dates with this girl since last year, she knew I had feelings for her and i get the vibe that she feels (or at least felt) the same. However, she keeps on repeating that she was straight (ironic, eh?). Moving on, I take her word, because maybe her definition of "gay" or "straight" is not really based on how you feel towards other people. Maybe, being gay for her would mean that she would have to be in a relationship with another girl. So you see? everything is relative.

"part of forever is better than none"

[notallgrown]

I've only recently admitted to myself that i am a lesbian, so I'm sort of expecting to gain a 'gaydar' over the next few months. sort of like a present for admittin it . so far i've not really noticed it kickin in tho. i have once or twice looked at someone and noticed there was somthin different that i cudn't quite put my finger on. like when i watched 'girl interrupted' and clea duvall suddenly appeared on screen, i felt somethin inside me, it wasn't that i fancied her (tho i do now ) but i knew somethin about her appealed to me. later i checked her bio and discovered she was gay.

so there we go. my gayday experience- may we pray i have many more in the future! haha

[jaxxofdeath]

i have heard personnly that gay males are well dressed and well bathed and so on and such forth and lesbians are just the opposite but ive found this to be the worst advice anyones ever given me and this question arises from a problem that ,if your a female and you ask if another girl is gay the girl may be offended but she wont mind the question too much, however if your a boy and (i havent hit on you for one) and you ask if another male is gay then he will likely go fucking insane and get all touchy plus a lot of times people dont know it and othertimes they think they are then after spending a day or so they realize they arent but remember that one out of every five people are gay so everywhere you go odds are there are gay people you just have to find em in terms of gaydar however i truely believe such a thing exists but my friends and family didnt believe i was queer and prolly still dont which i find ackward seeing as my mother is still trying to set me up on a date with some chick yah but if the person is out of the closet he/she will prolly have rainbow pins or something of the sort rainbow shoelaces are popular around here

[Modjadji]

My weirdest gaydar experience involved seeing a girl walk past a video store just once from a parked car and thinking 'wow, she's gay', even thought I still can't explain why. I can even tell you more or less what she was wearing. Anyway, I met the same girl almost six months later and not only did I remember seeing her, but she was, you guessed it, gay. That experience, combined with knowing a friend's sister was lesbian before she did, turned me from a skeptic into a real believer in the whole 'gaydar' issue.

[Auburn]

Ooo Gaydar thread... good topic... I just did something in one of my fics about the Gaydar in that Tara didn't have one... anyway.



My Gaydar works great I can tell if men and women are Gay....But interestingly enough... because I'm super femanine they get my sexuality wrong and instantly presume I'm straight.. . but then I suppose that practically every lesbian in my city has short hair and wears trousers has something to do with it. stereotypical views certainly influence the way someone chooses to use their Gaydar in my opinion.



Auburn...



.... Devious Mind With A Great Behind.

[slayer747]

you know what's funny? everytime a get to hang out with a girl...she'd keep on asking if they're sending off gay vibes. i usually just shrug and say "nah, too straight..." and then raise my eyebrows at them... it kinda makes them think twice about themselves.



yeah, cruel, i know!

"part of forever is better than none"

[eponinethen]

Oh, I can never tell if someone's gay or not.

But once, we were like five people, and this one guy who had never met any of the others before (and didn't know I was gay), all of a sudden he said "so, are all of you like.. open about your sexual orientation..?" And it turns out all five uf us are gay (well, one bi, but still).. and he just knew that.. I would've never guessed, lol..

[BFR from Paris]

Funny thing, my gaydar is very sharp when it comes to TV fictional characters (and I'm not talking about the obvious ones )... In RL it works too, but I don't always get confirmation (or denial), and I'm still wondering about a few people at work...

[ExtraFlameyWT]

Before I came out, this girl I knew was bragging about how she had such great gaydar (even though she was straight)...I jokingly said, "Well, then what do you think about me? Am I gay?"

She just laughed and said, "Yeah right. Don't worry though, I'll let you know if you are."

I just started laughing, because she was so wrong. Anyway, I tend to have pretty good gaydar. My girlfriend says she doesn't have any, but I can pretty much figure it out.

"Pope John Paul today confirmed his opposition to gay marriages, said they're unnatural. Gay marriage is unnatural. Then he put on a pointy hat, his dress, and returned to never having sex at all." -Bill Maher

[Candleshoe]

I knew two of my friends were gay before they did. Actually, we all knew they were gay before they did. So when they finally "came out", we were more surprised that they had been in before!

My gaydar tends to work as follows:

The more I fancy a girl, the more likely she is to be straight. And married...

[Lindelaure]

My gaydar works more or less like candleshoe's. I'm bi, but I manage to cancel my chances of getting a date, since I'm usually attracked to gay guys and straight girls. That's how I know. If a guy is straight I won't even look at him, but if he's gay I'll be in love in 30 sec. If the girl is gay I'll go clueless until she tells me.

[notl33t]

My Gaydar's completely broken, and so is my SomeoneWantsToShagMeDar. Mostly, I never developed the "making a move" muscles that everyone else seems to have. I've never made initial moves, but I'm damn good at maneuvering once I've got a starting point. I've been told that at this point, I'm hopeless and should just buy a Gaydar on Amazon.

[EndlessDestiny]

I was talking to one of my friends (the first and only one I've told about my doubting my straightness). Anyway, she said that anyone, gay, bi, straight. Male or female, tends to be hyperaware of the gender they are attracted to. For example, she's telling me that in her experience, a lesbian's eyes will follow the movement of another woman. Where her hands go, if she tucks a strand of hair behind her ears (and at that moment I notice my friend tucking a strand behind her ears).

It was a very interesting conversation to have. My friend is straight, but is very good to talk to.