Hey
guitar_girl,
I hope you still remember the girl from dodo land
Anyhoo, after I read your message over here, I thought I would respond to you once again.
It's vital to recognise that when we are in love with somebody (whether it is reciprocated love or not), our thoughts automatically become geared towards spotting and enhancing factual evidence of the other person also being in love with us. When this personal factual evidence does not necessarily manifest into one's immediate reality, there is a tendency to lack faith and as such to hold on tighter to either images or signs of affection as a means of ensuring that the love lives on. This is in a sense what you might have been doing during that long period of being "in love" with your best friend. Holding on to the desire for romance is not what is going to help you receive romance though. You just need to peek inside your own heart to discover that in the same way that an experience cannot be owned forever, in the same way, you are free both to love and let go OR to love and hold on. Ultimately, you will receive the insight that the love does live on forever if you allow it to thrive within your heart ... but whether the romance thrives or not depends on your own ability for appropriate discernment within your personal situation.
Blessings to you,
Vi'