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"The Bi Poem"

Postby sprhrgrl » Thu Mar 27, 2003 1:31 am

I was at a poetry thing put on by the San Diego VAGINAS (Vibrant Activist Grrls Invoking National Attention, a la Eve Ensler) and the woman presiding was calling for poets. She asked especially for bisexual women, who maybe had something to share about their place as bi women in the queer community. I didn't have a piece at that time, but it made me finally write my bi rant, which I'm simply calling "The Bi Poem."



It needs something, I'm thinking, and since the Kitties tend toward sexual deviance in many of its best forms. . . I figure that someone here might be able to help me.



Disclaimer disclaimer, yadda yadda - in no way do I dislike homosexual people (my girlfriend's homosexual, ha!). I just dislike the biphobia that I've seen so often in the 'community'. . . Thus the abrasive tone and the R rating (even if I felt this way years ago). Also, my poetry is generally written to be spoken. I do a lot of spoken word and performance art stuff. So it doesn't come across as well without the tone, but I hope I write and punctuate well enough so that people who haven't heard me speaking still dig.



I'd also like to mention that I don't . . . Not many of my queer friends know that I would self-identify as bi, if the community weren't so scared of it. So I think it says a lot that I'm coming out as bi on the kitten board. Or something.



More of my work can be found at my open art diary, http://concept.diaryland.com. You can post there too, if you're a diaryland member. So yeah, thanks for listening to the ranting. Now to the poem (and more ranting!). Comments and criticism much appreciated. It's not good enough, needs something more.



Bi SEX shuality

Is mine

though I won’t admit it to the

‘queer’ ‘community’



I like girls and pretty boys

If I got my way all of my toys

would be shiny and genderless.



Bi SEX shuality

shouldn’t be an issue

I don’t give a shit who will kiss who

but – I guess – some do.

some who

I thought knew

that it didn’t matter

if girls liked. . . girls.

And boys liked. . . boys.



So if I like girls, and sometimes boys,

I shouldn’t have to make my noise,

and argue that they’re wrong with



their taunting //intolerance of anyone not ho-mo-sex-shual song



it’s like the coming out fight

all over again

except here I don’t really want to win.

we’re all queer, values usually shared

except, I guess, when people are scared

of things that ! might be accepted by the mainstream –

that rushing, overwhelming cultural scream.



Because that’s where I’m going, obviously.

My love, my girl, my cats and me –

yep. We’re going back to the bloody right wing

to do the proper republican thing.

We’ll sell our cats to KFC and I’ll leave her –

and she’ll leave me –

and in my sadness I’ll go and get knocked up

because I’m bi, you know, and that’s my luck



And because abortion is evil I won’t get one.

Instead I’ll go back to the catholics

And search for salvation.



Because, since I’m bi, that’s what I’m gonna do.



Either that, or. . . What?

I’ll leave. My wife. My girl. My love. My life.

Go to the first

man

who will take my hand

How’s it okay to be a poly dyke but not

to like both X and Y? to bed all the girls,

not give them the time of day, but

it’s okay, since she’s just gay.



Lines and labels dictate here too, loath to acknowledge

those who don’t fit. As bad as butch/femmme is

male/female is gay/bi/str8 is fear/love/hate



I went with two to a prom. People thought

that was wrong

or an expression of my bi SEX shuality as I was

obviously fucking both of them?



I was a beard to a shiny bi. His boi was so afraid –

since we're both 'half straight'

we must be sluts

we must be cheating –

they broke up the day after. again with the fistfights at pride,

the girl was just to decorate my side

salvaging my image

of NON het-er-o sex shuality



The next year I went with my love and I won

the right to the bragging

of coronation

of kingdom and butchness

and other dyke glory,

participating in some stereotypical story. . .



At both proms

I danced with the girls and the bois

I did little twirls and exhibited poise

in a both a tux and a ballgown kicking up skirts



. . .But whether I went as a princess or a king

these labels just shouldn’t mean anything.

In a suit or a skirt, if I should choose to flirt

with a girl or a boy

in serious-ness or to toy,



my bi SEX shuality shouldn’t be an issue.

to you.

unless

i want to

fuck you.


sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

Edited by: sprhrgrl  at: 6/26/03 1:25 am
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Re: "The Bi Poem"

Postby StrawberryTrix » Thu Mar 27, 2003 2:33 am

awesome as love



Straw

"My Teeth, my car, my vagina, my business"~Kelly Osbourne

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Re: "The Bi Poem"

Postby Hanki » Fri Mar 28, 2003 1:29 pm

lol! thats so cool :clap

~ Han ~


"the fatal flaw of 'Who's Gurkhan?' was that nobody cared who he was as long as Gabrielle kept dancing in that skimpy outfit..." ~ me on Xena season six ep 'Who's Gurkhan.'

Hanki
 


...

Postby MellindraX » Fri Mar 28, 2003 4:50 pm

hehe. I liked the ending :lol

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Re: ...

Postby sprhrgrl » Sat Mar 29, 2003 3:47 am

I thank you guys muchly for the response. . . StrawberryTrix, that's sweet but my love is awesomer (*grin*). . . hanki, thanks much, and MellindraX - the floating "to" irks me, but I don't like "unless i want to" as a whole line either. I deal, though, as fuck you has to have its own line. (smile)



It's crazy, because I actually just emailed the poem to my English teacher, asking her for help. It's a crazy world.

sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: ...

Postby Wytchi Grrl » Sat Mar 29, 2003 1:12 pm

Fantastic! This is a subject I feel strongly about too, and your poem sums it up brilliantly and creatively :)




Toujours, Pour toujours, Élément essentiel - Saule et Tara

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Re: ...

Postby pacou » Sat Mar 29, 2003 5:23 pm

:clap That was great!



I liked the rhime scheme and everything anyway ;)



Thanks so much for sharing :grin



Quote:
my bi SEX shuality shouldn’t be an issue

to you

unless i want

to

fuck you.




:laugh



Well, I think that was funny ;) Thanks :D



:peace -Viv- :peace

Medicine, law, banking – these are necessary to sustain life. But poetry, romance. love, beauty? These are what we stay alive for!

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Re: ...

Postby Vampire Willow » Sat Mar 29, 2003 6:35 pm

WOW! :clap :applause

That was excellent! This is an issue I, too, feel strongly about. I felt that this:



Quote:
We’ll sell our cats to KFC and I’ll leave her –

and she’ll leave me –

and in my sadness I’ll go and get knocked up

because I’m bi, you know, and that’s my luck



And because abortion is evil I won’t get one.

Instead I’ll go back to the catholics

And search for salvation.



Because, since I’m bi, that’s what I’m gonna do.




That is what alot of people think! I have found that to be factually true, trust me! Some people...:spin they just can't see past orientation or gender. :sigh When will they learn?



Thank you for posting this, I throughly enjoyed it!



~Tash xoxo



"We repulse ourselves! I mean, I used to look in the mirror and go, "Well, I'm not going to shag me, that's for certain!"-Eddie Izzard

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Re: ...

Postby GiftofAmber » Sun Mar 30, 2003 6:32 pm

Exactly. I would have thought in the gay/lesbian community, they of all people would understand that your orientation is your orientation, you like who you like, and it shouldn't be an issue. Bisexual doesn't even mean you want to be with more than one person, just that gender isn't the most important thing.

Edited by: BytrSuite at: 3/30/03 7:54:49 pm
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Re: ...

Postby urnofosiris » Sun Mar 30, 2003 11:53 pm

Quote:


Exactly. I would have thought in the gay/lesbian community, they of all people would understand that your orientation is your orientation, you like who you like, and it shouldn't be an issue.




Indeed, it shouldn't be an issue if I say I am a man and straight (and believe me, in my case it can be). It would be nice if everyone could accept that I am who I say I am and not how others perceive me or would like me to be, but I must say that I haven't had any disagreement with anyone from the gay and lesbian community about this.



A fun poem btw, especially the last paragraph. :)



-------------------------


Coffee, Food, Kisses and Gay Love........Get it while you are hot

urnofosiris
 


Thanks. (shy smile)

Postby sprhrgrl » Thu Apr 03, 2003 1:38 am

Wytchi Grrl - I thought it was a nice breath of air after my thousands of tirades.



pacou - I hadn't even paid attention to the rhyme scheme (I usually write blank verse, with some internal rhyming) but I went back and went "wooooah. . ."



Vampire WillowKFC, you mean? eeP. Scary stuff, and one of many reasons why I'm vegetarian. . . Oh, did you mean the 'because i'm bi' bit? Oh! And Eddie Izzard! I googled to this page to find you the precise wording for a certain quote, but then got too distracted and wanted to post all of them.



GiftofAmber - and yet it so often seems like the general queer community is even less tolerant than the straight community is, regarding bi issues. I mean, how many lesbians have you met who won't date bi women? Grah.



DrG - The San Diego Gay Youth Alliance had a meeting where we talked about how we identify ourselves and why. It was really interesting to see how people labeled themselves, and to compare it with what my mind had decided they "were." It's interesting that humans are so enthusiastic about categorizing people.



Aaaaaand thank yous to everyone who read. I'm still looking for that certain something, because it still is. . . Lacking. But it's good to know that it's been appreciated by Nice Kittens.

sprhrgrl
 


Re: eddie izzard...

Postby Hanki » Thu Apr 03, 2003 9:27 am

aaah eddie izzard, my friend and i are totally obsessed with the man, he is the singular funniest man in the world (in my "professional" opinion ;) )



cake or death?

~ Han ~


"the fatal flaw of 'Who's Gurkhan?' was that nobody cared who he was as long as Gabrielle kept dancing in that skimpy outfit..." ~ me on Xena season six ep 'Who's Gurkhan.'

Hanki
 


Re: eddie izzard...

Postby Dumbsaint » Fri Apr 04, 2003 6:01 pm

The San Diego Gay Youth Alliance. Boy does that bring back memories. Not all good. :lol



Great to see a piece on this issue. The widespread existence of bi-bashing in the queer community is something that never ceases to astound me. Phooey on that crap.

I had been hungry, all the Years- My Noon had come- to dine-

I trembling drew the Table near- and touched the Curious Wine-

Dumbsaint
 


Re: eddie izzard...

Postby sprhrgrl » Sat Apr 05, 2003 2:19 am

So much do I agree, hanki.



Julia, you were a GYAer? What a strange world. . . I just got back from tonight's meeting.

sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

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Re: eddie izzard...

Postby Bubblecath » Sat Apr 05, 2003 4:53 am

Hey sprhgrl :wave

Just wanted to show my appreciation for your poem, its something that i feel strongly about also so....:clap

i liked the ending and the prom bit especially.

cath

xxx

Bubblecath
 


Re: eddie izzard...

Postby sprhrgrl » Sat Apr 05, 2003 11:01 pm

(grin) prom was a crazy scene, Bubblecath, so it makes good fodder. . . At one point, the bi boy's boyfriend came up while we were dancing close and threatened, "If you don't get off of him, I'm going to unzip you." Weird stuff.

sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: eddie izzard...

Postby Dumbsaint » Sun Apr 06, 2003 9:20 am

Yes, Sprhrgrl, I was a bona fide GYAer. Met my first girlfriend (*shudder*) there, and a pal who is to this day one of my most trusted friends. But in the end, the drama sent me running screaming. In short, GYA was a confirmation for me that I don't always play well with others. ;)



But it was my introduction to the gay community, and the beginning of the support system that led to me being comfortable enough to come out at a young age. And I do think it offers a very important service to the youth community. So yay for GYA. And yay for young queers who see that the gay community isn't the idealistic world where everyone is free to love whomever they please, free of racism and sexism and ageism and all those other fun -isms, that some of us long ago dreamed it might be. Especially yay for the young queers who get pissed off about that and express it in their art. ;)







I had been hungry, all the Years- My Noon had come- to dine-

I trembling drew the Table near- and touched the Curious Wine-

Dumbsaint
 


Re: Prominess

Postby Bubblecath » Sun Apr 06, 2003 11:28 am

:rofl Sprhrgrl! your prom souned so cool! which is more than i can say for our ball! it pretty much comprised of cheap champagne! and a limo, im sure there was a limo there somewhere. we managed to get slightly tipsy in the 5 minute limo ride and spent the rest of the night trying to act sober in front of our teachers! there was plenty of stumbling and giggles!

And you took two dates! that is pure genius! wish id thought of that! :hmm .

The little girl and the princess comment :blush sooo sweet!

you are so right about people pretending to be happy. we really were just pretending!

i really like your website, gonna read it more often now!

:grin

cath :kiss

xxx

Bubblecath
 


Re: Promness

Postby sprhrgrl » Mon Apr 07, 2003 10:25 am

Absolutely the drama, still, Dumbsaint, but I stick with it for the reasons you brought up. . . We've been discussing having a "family reunion" of sorts (yes, aha, pun, yeah. . .), but have been fearing the drama that might be a result. . .



And Bubblecath. . . Prom was just strange. Such odd dynamics. But I'm going this year with my girl and running for prom king, so it'll be much. . . Different.



(yawn) Anyhow, now is time for the heading-to-school-so-I-don't-get-kicked-out-before-prom bit. . .

sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: Promness

Postby Bubblecath » Mon Apr 07, 2003 1:46 pm

Hey sprhrgrl! :wave

well good luck with Prom King - If i had a vote- you would definately get it! :grin

Hope you have oddles of fun in your prom this time around!



Yes - go to school so you dont get kicked out before the prom! coz i want to hear all about it! :D

catherine

xxx

Bubblecath
 


More Poemy Goodness. Or badness, in this case.

Postby sprhrgrl » Fri Apr 18, 2003 2:02 am

Reforming this thread as a general place for my poemy stuff, I just put up a piece at concept, my poetry and such open forum. . . 'Cause my girl just got out of the hospital, I learned. . . (bites lip) Damn ldr.

sprhrgrl.com

counting*stars


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Prom King

Postby sprhrgrl » Sun May 18, 2003 10:15 pm

I won I won I won.

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racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: Prom King

Postby Vampire Willow » Mon May 19, 2003 4:15 pm

:pride YAY! GO YOU! :pride



~Tash xoxo

"A problem of type 2094 has occurred. What the f*ck is that? What are the 2,093 other problems I just made to get to that one? "-Eddie Izzard

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Re: Prom King

Postby sprhrgrl » Mon May 19, 2003 6:51 pm

(laugh) Thanks, Tash.



I guess we can't rebuke any accusations of the Kittens flag-waving, though. . .

sprhrgrl.com

she's my everythin


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Updaty Goodness

Postby sprhrgrl » Thu Jun 26, 2003 2:28 am

Super editing. . . I kept saying that something was missing, and I guess it was the second prom anecdote. I like it a lot better now, it seems muchmuch more complete. Goody for me. (grin)



I think we're going to publish it, along with a bunch of other stuff, in the GYA Literature Anthology. Which should be good queer youthy times.

sprhrgrl.com

she's my everything


racism=sexism=homophobia

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: Updaty Goodness

Postby singgirl » Fri Jul 25, 2003 5:02 am

right on!

:peace Pax! -Bev

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& More Updaty Goodness

Postby sprhrgrl » Tue Sep 02, 2003 1:59 am

I alredy posted these on concept, my poetry/whatever site on Diaryland (It's an open diary, so if you live at diaryland you can post there too!), but I figured you guys might like 'em too, 'cos they're about leezbeuns. . .



REALITY TV VS DYKE COMMUNITY

The other day I was thinking,

with how the television is always so

"oooh ooh lesbianshott!"

that they should make a reality show

about me.



They've come rather close with this,

yes,

with Kelly Osbourne,

but no matter how dykey her

round short-haired white girl ass

may seem,

my show would be better.



My show would be a great reality show

without even the manufactured reality,

because I have the wonderful drama machine that is

The Dyke Community.



I mean, how simple is that?

The gays = drama.

Just putting on the show would equal drama,

so they've got that going for them already.



And then the built in drama of insane exes

who are living on friend's couches and

what the hell is she doing with her?



But my show would be a good example of

the assimilative monogamous relationships, too, see?

Because you've got my girl and I of two years and rings

and so the Christians can't really complain about

the sex.

Especially if one of us is wearing a penis, right?



Hell, we're having safer sex than they are -

they probably don't even have safewords in place.



But yeah, about this reality show -

they could even market me as a freak,

that'd be fine,

because it'd draw in the novelty viewers

who then would be forced to realize how

relatively

normal I am,

while they would still get their craziness

in all of the dyke drama.



It'd be a fucking great reality show,

and it'd even be reality.







THE OTHER DAY I THANKED MY DYKE COUSIN

The other day I thanked my dyke cousin for being herself.

Since I was small I wanted to emulate her.

She was born on my mother's eleventh birthday,

so that made her nine when I was born. That seems wrong,

but she was my mother's generation.

The youngest.

While I'm the oldest and only of mine.

If I'm eighteen she's twenty-seven and a powerful physicist.

But when I was growing up, she was a star.

I remember sitting in her high school gymnasium,

having driven three hours to be there

to watch her,

Red,

making baskets.

I was playing soccer at the time,

but soon found basketball a better sport.

I wanted to be like her.



She went on to college hoops and

we went on attending games.

Spectacular, and the height of cool -

to go out after the game with the star.

There's a picture of me with her, in her uniform.

She's tall and flushed and athletic,

I'm small and round and grinning - geeky as hell.



It was around that time the family learned

she was dating her high school coach.

They were good together,

both sportsdykes,

and both came to

big family functions.

I was amazed, but sad - they were still

in separate beds.

It was only when I saw my mother's straight cousins

split from their unmarried partners in sleeping

that I felt okay about it.



One time they were playing scrabble,

my gay cousin and her coach slash lover,

and the coach slash lover had the tiles to make

the word dyke.

I wanted to point it out to her, to place

it on the board,

but I think it was really me

I wanted to point out.



The next year they'd broken up.

The cousin had a new lover

and they were smitten, always going on

"walks"

I was looking for talks with the cousin

about the gay,

but it's alright because they're still together today

and I was able to find myself.



The other day I thanked my dyke cousin for being herself.

I told her how much that helped,

how it told me

that I could be me

and not worry about the family.



She responded that

she never really told them.

They just always kind of knew.



sprhrgrl.com

she's my everything


Sweetie, I'm a fag. I been there. - Tara

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: & More Updaty Goodness

Postby BethanyB3 » Tue Sep 02, 2003 12:00 pm

You we're lucky to have such a positive role model in your cousin and your poem really expressed your feelings for her and how she made you feel it was okay to be you.

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"How did you first know that you were gay...what did you feel? Apparently, another girl." ~ Suzanne Westenhoefer



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Re: & More Updaty Goodness

Postby sprhrgrl » Wed Sep 03, 2003 11:12 pm

She was only nine years older than me and, as I have no siblings or cousins of my own and she was the youngest of her generation, she was the one who would play with me whenever the whole family was together. She was never such a large part of my life, but I admired her very much.

sprhrgrl.com

she's my everything


Sweetie, I'm a fag. I been there. - Tara

The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. - Gloria Steinem

sprhrgrl
 


Re: & More Updaty Goodness

Postby thrilledbymaclay » Mon Oct 06, 2003 1:13 am

I loved the second to last and last poems, but the first just hit me like a truck... That's what I've been trying to say for so long, and it's never come out in a way that really explained what I wanted to communicate... I was actually reading it aloud and raging... Thanks so much for sharing it.



Elise

"Honestly, I like everything. Boyish girls, girlish boys, the heavy and the skinny. Which is a problem when I’m walking down the street." -Angelina Jolie

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