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Re: Another depressing family story

Postby Imperfectly Me » Wed Dec 04, 2002 11:36 am

To those of you who's coming out was a horror story, many hugs sent your way. Coming out for me wasn't such a bad thing...not that my family took it well at first, but at least there were no subsequent beatings or disownings. My mom actually told me that I was gay. She had been out to dinner with her boyfriend, who's daughter knew about me and had apparently told her dad. Well, Mom and said boyfriend come home and she comes downstairs to bring me my take out, or so I thought. Instead she throws open my door and says "so you're a dyke now?" My response was "Yeah, so?" and after screaming that I'm sick and disgusting she went upstairs and left me alone. Her boyfriend also made it a point to tell everyone in my mother's side of the family, a very southern very Christian group of people. To his dismay they reacted with nothing but support for me. But I guess that wasn't in his master plan. While my family doesn't care and accepts me, he makes it a point to insult me and degrade me at any chance he gets. From him I have to deal with comments of "You're going to die of aids you sick bitch, and you fucking dykes are nasty, why don't you just give it up and go find a man?" He even goes so far as to try and convince my lesbian friends to "switch sides". I don't know...it's nothing I can't live through, but it does make me spend many a night crying over the stupidity of some people, because at this point in time I don't feel that I'll ever be truly accepted for who I am.



Aim

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Re: Another depressing family story

Postby DRUSILLA LOVER » Thu Dec 05, 2002 12:35 am

i just want to say i hope things get better for all of you , who are having problems with your family or friends.

DRUSILLA LOVER
 


Re: Another depressing family story

Postby Vampivy » Thu Dec 05, 2002 12:40 am

Thank you, All of you for your kind words. It means a great deal.



Patty

Vampivy
 


Re: Another depressing family story

Postby amberbensontotallyrules4e » Thu Dec 05, 2002 1:07 pm

My family have pretty much disowned me anyway,I'm shunted around from both sets of Grandparents, to my aunt and uncle to my mum and to my Dad (all this whilst trying to prepare for GCSEs. Aaargh) , but I'm still terrified of telling them that I'm gay. All my friends at school know and most of them are perfectly fine with it. And of course, the guys think it's totally cool :-) but my best friend was well freaked when I told her, and all though it seemed like she accepted it for a while, she stopped talking to me 10 months ago for no reason, and I think that it was probably because of my crush on our tutor. It's a real shame, because I really miss her, we went through a lot together, and she supported me when my Dad threw me out this time last year. I think we're starting to get things sorted though and that's the absolute best thing in my life at the moment.

Arwen, if you ever need someone to talk to whose gone through almost the exact same thing, email me at rachel@normalpeoplescareme.com or IM me on MSN as the same thing as my email. Keep your heads up guys, each and everyone of you are worth so much to the world.

Rachel

"The only thing Willow had...I had going for me were the moments...just moments, when Tara would look at me, and I was wonderful."

~Willow.

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Re: Another depressing family story

Postby DRUSILLA LOVER » Thu Dec 05, 2002 1:45 pm

im sorry to hear that...that really sucks...

DRUSILLA LOVER
 


Re: Another depressing family story

Postby silverdragon219 » Tue Dec 10, 2002 9:22 pm

well my mom and dad were shocked at first but then they got used to the idea.....still not as smooth as cream though.....they dont like my girlfriend much but i am aloud to stay at her house from time to time...they know i love her and she loves me...but its just hard for them i think....at first i toned it down...like i wasnt going around proceeding to tell them how hot chicks were on tv...(willow and tara).....but i slowly got them used to it.....its my aunt that has a problem with it...i got the whole "your going to he ll" bit from her on her last visit.......she told me it was completely wrong and frankly made me temporarly ashamed.....she was my role model.....i loved her...my favorite aunt.....until now...she looks at me with pity and i HATE it........i cant do anything to change her mind.....but i have convinced myself...no i believe i have nothing to feel bad about...i am happy i am in love and thats all that matters...if she doesnt want anything to do with me anymore thats her problem not mine....i just wanted to share my story.......

silverdragon219
 


Re: Another depressing family story

Postby themagicpixie » Wed Dec 11, 2002 5:39 am

I'm so sorry to read all the really awful stories here. I hope you all find happiness...

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