Calling all Kittens! Need help with sexual identity survey!

[LiquiDreams618]

Hello Kittens!



I know, I know....you are probably saying to yourself, another survery?!?!? Geez......I debated on whether or not to post this because I didn't want to swamp everyone with another one, but I really would like to hear your thoughts on this subject since this board is a haven for no-holds-barred conversation. So, I was wondering if any of you had a few minutes to fill out this survey for me. I'm conducting a research project for one of my grad classes in response to a fellow grad student's project. My intent is not to completely discredit his work....not entirely. Anyway, his project is questioning the development of one's sexual identity and their views on sex. His hypothesis is that gay men become comfortable with their sexuality much sooner than lesbians thereby engaging in sex at a much younger age. He has found some research (by this I mean ONE study) that seems to support his idea and is conducting interviews and surverys to attempt to support his argument.



We have to choose one person's project from our class in an attempt to prove or disprove his or her hypothesis. I almost fell out of my chair when I heard his research project because it seemed out of left field. I also tend to think that his entire research is wrong because he is basing his entire study off ONE article that was written in the late 1990's....but that is another story.



So, if any of you have time to fill out this survery, I would really appreciate it. Please answer as many questions as you can but if you do not want to answer a particular question, just skip it. Also, if you aren't comfortable in posting your responses online, you can email me at MJMJ1875@hotmail.com or post your request on here and I will email the survey to you. Names will not be used in the paper in case anyone was wondering. Here are some of his questions that he posed as well as some of my own. Also, if you have any suggestions on other questions to ask, please feel free to let me know. I'm conducting a large survery study in January and would like to include any of your suggestions. Also, if anyone would like to know my results, let me know as well.



Age:



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



THANK YOU! THANK YOU!THANK YOU! I cannot say enough to thank you for responding to this. Again, if you aren't comfortable in posting your responses on the board, just email me at MJMJ1875@hotmail.com and I will email the survery to you. Also, suggestions for other questions would really be appreciated, as well as general feedback. You can either post the new questions or feeback on here for others to answer/read or just let me know.



Once again, thank you all.

MJ

Edited by: LiquiDreams618 at: 11/28/03 3:20 am

[Mrs Vertigo]

Age: 17



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Lesbian... with the slightest bi tendencies.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



oh boy... I'm not sure, but I think I had a crush on a boy in my class when I was 6. It's hard to know. But I'm not the crushing type. I only had one crush I'm absolutely sure of, at about age 15, on a girl.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



Women where always a little more than just beautiful. Just a little more interesting. I've always been attracted to them but only realized it at age 13.5.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex



No - because I hadn't had any chances of doing that, since 'dating' american-style is not a very established thing in Israeli teenage society (we go about it very differently), and especially among gay youth. I did act up on my feelings several times, and did ingage in different romantic activities with memebers of the same sex, if this answers your question.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



Like I explained I didn't exactly 'date'. However I think I was about 14 when I started doing things of the sort.



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



It took me about a year to fully accept the fact that I'm more or less a lesbian, with only the slightest attraction towards men. My friends helped me come to terms with my sexuality. Also I did plenty of reading on the subjects (books, articles, papers, the internet), and there were some informative tv shows... this 'research' calmed me down and helped me cope. Sexual encounters with same-sex partners I've had later on ensured me I was doing what's right for me and gave me confidence. Also... time and growing up had a certain role.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

I've been gradually coming out to people since I was about 14. Sometimes accidentally but mostly intentionally. I've come out to my family when I was about 15, maybe? I'm not entirely sure, it could have been earlier. I've only come out to my mother a year or a year and a half later, unintentionally, when i was about 16.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



Not a big issue for me. I've had sexual encounters with women since about age 14, which is early enough for anyone, straight or otherwise. I've only fully slept with a woman this year, but not because I'd felt myself 'unready' but because that's just the way things happened.



I don't, however, feel myself entirely ready to sleep with a man. I find the notion a little scary and not that attracting.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



Erm... no, I think it took me less time to reach sexual encounters because I'm, well, a horny teenager I guess. I'm just easy.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity





I hope that helped you, sweety. This paper you're trying to discredit sounds rather dumb. *shrug*

I love my long lost Jewish little-potato twin. In a prison way.

Edited by: Mrs Vertigo at: 11/28/03 9:30 am

[xita]

*editing to add my age : 31



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



A girl named nancy, I was in kinder and boy I just wanted to make her happy in any way I could.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



I was 12. Sigh, she was so dreamy.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

B, I guess. I wouldn't call it dating cause I was 12, but I had boyfriends. I did stop having them by the time I was 14 because I realized I didn't really want to have them.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

I was scared so I waited till I was 18. I was scared of mommy and daddy and I couldn't ever bring myself to communicate my feelings to a girl.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

e. it isn't even a question for me



I am not sure what e means but if means that my sexuality isn't even an issue well then that's your answer. I am so comfortable it's not even an issue.



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



Well for myself, I accepted it immediately. I thought I might be bisexual for a long time because I wanted to be somewhat normal I think. I didn't have any problem with it, I just thought society, my family would hate me.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



Yes, took about 8 years I guess. I was 20 and in college.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



I will answer that question, I find most people don't want to just right up and ask you.



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex





12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



Six lonely desperate years. As soon as I left that high school hell hole, I found lesbians, and it didn't take long after that!



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



I'll be honest and answer no, I think I needed to be an adult to have sex. I remember messing around with boys when I was young, could have but pregnancy and disease were too big in my mind to risk it.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:



a. reinforce your sexual identity



I realized then, I was for sure not bisexual.

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"Hard work often pays off after time but laziness always pays off now!"

Edited by: xita  at: 11/28/03 7:53 pm

[amberbensontotallyrules4e]

I'll answer this here cos i'm completely random and i dont care who knows this stuff, plus, I'm too lazy to email it.



Age: 17



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

lesbian, without a doubt.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

yeh I do, my first "serious" crush was on SMG, so a girl, definitely.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

I first remember being about 10 or 11, but i'd probably noticed it before then. I just don't remember that clearly





4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

not date at all for a while (i was only 11!) then i kinda dated both for a while to see if it was just a phase, but by about 14 i'd decided i wasn't interested in guys in the slightest.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

about 3 years



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?





7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable





8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

It took a couple of years, hence the dating both guys and girls for a while, but i think a combination of time and support from my best friend who guessed helped me to accept it.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

All my friends know, my Dad and his wife know, but my Mom doesn't and isn't likely too until I'm in a serious relationship, because she's the most homophobic person on earth and won't ever speak to me again after I tell her.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"- it depends on who's asking as to how quickly i say anything



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

erm, I was 15, so 5 years i guess.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

No.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

*****************************************************************

"I can't explain what I don't understand, time's slipping through my hands, as the seconds turn to yesterdays..." ~ Rachel Stevens

[cattwoman98111]

Age:



29



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



My best friend, I was around 5 or 6 and she was 7 or 8.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



Around 15 I’d say, of course i never realized then that me wanting to see her every day and then call her every night was attraction. But I remember being fascinated by her.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



A (I was currently in a relationship with a man)



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



I dated after a year, I gave myself time to become comfortable with being gay and what it meant.





6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



E, I’m agreeing that it is not even a question; I am very comfortable with who I am, and 99% of the people who ask or find out are completely ok with it.



8. How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homosexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



I remember in High School asking myself why I did not like to kiss boys. I asked myself if I could be gay, the answer was a resounding NO, because if I thought a boy was cute I could not possibly be gay. It took college and a very special lady to help me see that gay did not equal life over. We came out together; she was the catalyst for everything I am today. After I ditched the boyfriend life made sense again, if I had not met “Ann” we both would be married to the respective boyfriends with 2.5 kids and likely miserable.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



I came out to most everyone within a 6 month period, with the exception of my mother’s parents, that took 7 years. Not because I did not want too, but because I made a silly promise to mom I would not..



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



A, if they ask. I’ve never been one to be ashamed of answering a direct question with a direct answer. I find it rare that people ask though, where I live I am blessed with a community where sexuality is not an issue.



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



A



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



As stated before, I took one year to become accustomed to the lesbian lifestyle, after then I started dating a woman I was friends with, which led to sex after we dated twice.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



I was never comfortable with men, something always felt like it was missing so I never committed to having sex with them. Well, ugh, once I new what I wanted, things fell into place.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



C, No having sex did not reinforce my sexual identity. Kissing a woman for the first time concreted what I new in my heart.



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



N/A



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



N/A





ETA: 'Cause I cannot spell today

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Edited by: cattwoman98111 at: 11/28/03 11:28 am

[AmbeRocks]

Age: 21



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



to answer both, i don't particularly remember my first crush, but i remember that since i'm like 9-10 years old, i was aware that i love girls. like in summer camp i was always enjoying me female monitors..!



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



well we don't really date here, but i had a single boyfriend when i was 13, so it was nothing serious, and then no more "dates" with boy. so i'd say D, but looking like an A



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

from 10 o 18 y.o. then



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable





8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

well i always knew i was and didn't ever felt bad or anything like tha about it, but at 17 i started working in a place where there were 2 lesbians and 2 gays, so it helped me a lot to come out.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

yes i have (not to everybody i know, but my real friends and all my family know) i told them when i started seeing my girlfriend, at 19 then



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:



b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"





The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex





12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

i can't really say, must be like 2-3 years maybe



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



not at all



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity





that's about it, glad we can help you to disprove that guy..!

There is such a variety of well-invented things that the earth is like the breasts of a woman: useful as well as pleasing - Nietzsche

[Puff]

Age:26

1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Yes, it was the same sex.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

I was 15 and I'd do anything to be around her.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both

B, dated one person of the opposite sex.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me

A, Very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I didn't accept it till I found the Kitten board and saw that being gay wasn't a huge sin and that in fact there were other lesbians around and they were great people. It took me till the age fo 23. I talked to several kittens and they helped me through a lot of my angst and my struggle with religion.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

Yes. I came out as soon as I had accepted that I was gay. I would say within 3-6 months of being happy with myself.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other

A, quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female

B.



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

After I came to terms with my sexuality I started dating someone else on the board here. We online dated for about 5 months and then we meet each other. She stayed with me for a week and that was our first time together.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

Um to have sex with a man yes. To have sex with another woman I have no idea...how fast is fast? It felt right to me.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)

A, it was pretty much 'oh that is how it should feel'.



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



Hope the answers helped and made sense.

---

So, the day started and I knew my name and had my pants on. So far, so good. Yay.
Amber Benson

[primalfigure]

Age:



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Lesbian, definately.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Yes, I was in kindergarten and it was a girl.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

I was five when I first realized I was different.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

(Only in High-School)





5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

From age 5 til I was old enough to date, albeit secretly at age 17.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both? NOT APPLICABLE



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable





8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

It took time and lots of friends and love.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

YES, I'm out and it took awhile. I was 19 when I came out, by force. A former friend told my family before I could, just to be a b!tch.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

Too long...heh. I was always ragingly attracted to the feminine form, so as soon as the opportunity arose...er...presented itself I dove in....er....ah.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

I don't know I think it was a normal progression.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

(I was never more overjoyed at finding out what I wanted was exactly what I wanted!)





*The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. & 16. --- I had to skip em' yo!

[LiquiDreams618]

Thanks to everyone that has responded including those who have emailed me their answers. Just as a general statement, I totally think this guy is an absolute idiot and that's why I chose his to discredit for 4 reasons.

1) I think it will be very easy to discredit his work

2) he's an idiot

3) his study has so many holes in it that it's ridiculous

4)I think he is completely, totally, utterly wrong



But that's just me.....



Anyway, thanks again.



MJ

[SoulieBaby]

Age:

23



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Most definately a lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

I don't necessarily remember my first crush, but it was a guy I'm sure..



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

I think I've always been attracted to girls.. I remember always craving their affection more so than with guys..



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

I first kissed a girl when I was 16, but I never dated one until I was 18..



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

It took a while I guess, I was questioning it for about a year or something.. lol I was scared at first coz I was so different as it were, but my friends were totally awesome about it and they still loved me even though I was gay. They were very supportive and understanding and I love them all for it..



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

I came out to my parents when I was 21.. I was in Canada at the time with my then g/f (I'm an Aussie).. I thought I was going to get kicked out of the house, but my parents accepted it as well as they could I guess (My mum is a very scrict baptist Christian), they don't condole it, but they accept and love me still.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



With that answer I guess it's a bit of B too, only because it depends on the person who asks.. I don't like people freaking out, so I'd like to know the person enough to kindof understand how they'll react.. you know?



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

As I said before about a year, I kissed a girl when I was 16 and I dated (and slept) with one when I was 18.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

It's hard to say.. I didn't really want to have sex with a guy at all.. *sigh* and he kinda took advantage of me.. so to speak.. Anyway, i guess it took longer to have sex with a girl coz I had to find someone I cared about and who cared about me.. And it was a whole new world to me..



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



Hope that helps

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"When I saw you, I was afraid to talk to you. When I talked to you, I was afraid to kiss you. When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you. Now that I love you, I'm afraid to lose you"

[Jennpurr]

Age: 23



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



Hmmm... to be honest, I don't remember. I remember kissing a girl when I was like 7 or 8. It's still something I fondly remember, so I'm thinking that it was a good experience for me.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



When I was about 15, I guess. I was in Ninth grade. She was my best friend. That crush lasted for years... about five to be exact. Damn, the things that girl did to my heart. It got so bad, I couldn't be around her and not feel uncomfortable.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you



a. date people of the same sex



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



I was 20. The first time I ever admitted to another person outloud that I was gay was when I was 18. So, 2 years.



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?



a. very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



Do you have an hour or so? Well, it took me about two years to fully accept my sexuality. I struggled with it and struggled with it. I'm a religous person and my faith was testing me. Now, it's my faith that pulled me through that. Melissa Etheridge also had a big influence on me, still does. I think it was my Reverend telling me that I wasn't going to go to hell for being gay that made me first feel in my heart, that she was right.



It was March 2001 when I accepted fully who I was.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



Yes, I have came out to my friends and family. I came out to my parents when I was 18. They asked me and I didn't lie. It was gradual after that. My friends came first, then the rest of my family in the latter part of 2001.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:



a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



It depends on who is asking me. I don't lie about my sexuality though. Sometimes its a proud, "Yes, I am." Other times it's... "Well... yes. I'm gay." Depends who is asking. There are some people that I just will not tell though.



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



Most definitely. The only beings on this earth powerful enough to make me go weak in the knees and have all my motor functions shut down, are women.





I think that about covers it. Sorry if my long responses were too much info.



Jen

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Edited by: Jennpurr at: 11/28/03 7:38 pm

[fairydust]

Age:

18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

definitely lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Yes, and it was on a girl in my kindergarden class



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

when I was 6



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

d. date both - I asked the girl in kindergarden to marry me, but after that i grew up realizing the world kinda sucks when it comes to same sex stuff, so i stayed in the closet and dated guys until I was 15 when I had my first real girlfriend *sorry that was so long*



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable (very very very very comfortable)



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

It took me about 3-4 years after i realized what exactly it was that I was feeling before I accepted it. And it was because of Willow and Tara actually...and also having my first girlfriend.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

I am completely out to everyone. It took me less than a year after I accepted it before I came out



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual" - not even a question



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

um...3 years I guess



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

no...I would have waited for the right person no matter what



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:a. reinforce your sexual identity



I hope this helps you



~Jayma Faye~

I LOVE MY KARE-BEAR

[DarkRed]

Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Bi-Sexual.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



a kid who was my best budd at the time, i don't remember exactly but something like the age of 9. i dreamed of marrying him, lmao..



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



seriously at the age of 16, a beautiful girl who was at my dance group a couple of years older than me.. but now that i look back i have been attracted to diff women throughout my life, just denied it.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you



d. date both



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



well i did not answer "c" but i am more comfy with women anyway.



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?



a. very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homosexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



right away, i had no problem with the fact that i have it in me to be attracted to women, on the contrare, more options in finding the one



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



well it was more my gf who told all our friends, but i had no problem with it. just this year i finally told my family, well just siblings and their couples but i have lots of them so.. i will tell my mom really soon, and dad, well someday.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:



a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



11. The first time you had sex was it:



a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



it was at the same time, i mean i slept with a girl and realized at the same night.. i didn't try to deny it after and we became gfs for almost a year.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



nop. well actually, maybe less time. cuz if that night had not happened who knows when i would find the right guy, or realize that i'm bi in another way..



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:



a. reinforce your sexual identity





that's it for me. peace out lol



Anat

Edited by: Warduke at: 12/10/03 8:51 am

[Imperfectly Me]

Age: 21



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Lesbian.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



Someone of the same sex.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



I was about 5.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



about ten years. I had my first same sex date at 16.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



Came out at fifteen, I was sick of hiding who I was to keep my family at peace.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



Yes, see answer above.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



six years, but it wasn't so much coming to terms with who I was as coming to terms with what my family thought of me.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



There were extenuating circumstances surrounding my choice to have sex for the first time, but my sexuality had nothing to do with it.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

Who were you then? And who are you now? That you think you can figure it all out, the mathematics of regret. It takes two beers to remember now, and five more to forget. That I love you so..what. Yeah I love you so..what.

Edited by: Imperfectly Me at: 11/29/03 8:00 pm

[Nikkii]

Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Same



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

In Primary (Junior) School



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

b. date people of the opposite sex





5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

All through High School. Only started dating same sex when I went to college.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

n/a



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I accepted it when I was at college with new people, and meeting other gay/bi people. It was that i had supportive friends and realised I couldn't live a lie.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

Yes, I'm out to all my friends, colleagues, my mum, my cousins and my auntie and I pretty much told them when I started seeing girls, through college. I don't know if I will come out to other family members.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

It was more about who I was with.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

No, I didn't have a serious relationship until I was 17, THEN I lost my virginity to the girl I was dating.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

[LiquiDreams618]

I wanted to thank everyone again for taking the time to fill out this survey. So far 27 people have responded to it. That is awesome! You guys are great!



MJ

[foreverpiper]

Age: 15



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

yes, bi



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

yes, opposite



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

last year and still crushing



4.After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, you

c - didnt date at all...i've never dated anyone yet



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

i have to saw women becasue all the guys at my school are jerks and the ones who are nice all have g/fs



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

b. somewhat comfortable

AND

d. still trying to figure things out



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I accept it fine, still cautious sometimes about saying it sometimes though! To tell you the truth, my friends knew it before i did! it all happened really fast too! i wore a shirt that read "My mom says i'm special" and the special was written in rainbow and these 2 girls who are seeing each other were like "yeah, you're gay" turns out i'm not all gay, cause i still like some guys.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

not my family! god no! my mom kinda knows already but my dad just wouldnt get it. as for my friends...i'm in the drama department and one of the abovementioned lesbians and a bi friend of mine were doing suprelatives for the show we'd just finished...well...lets just say after my suprelative of "most likely to stumble out of 'the closet' while looking for her camera" its safe to say everyone in the drama department knows. its cool though cause the drama kids are totally cool with it. as for the other people...i wont go there.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

f: just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?

b: still trying to find the right person

AND

c: just not interested in haveing sex with anyone right now

Galahad: What a strange person. French Dude: I don't want to talk to you no more, you empty headed animal food trough wiper. I fart in your general direction. Your mother was a hamster and your father smelled of elderberries. Galahad: Is there someone else up their we could talk to? French Dude: No, now go away or I shall taunt you a second time. - Monty Python

[Yellow Crayon]

Age: 14



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Yep, Bi



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Same



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

Like, 3rd grade is. I remember I was in an indepth convo. with my sister, and I was like, 'did you ever think you were gay?' I got a look like I had four eyes. I was like, 'yeah me neither...' then took a sip of my soda...



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out-- a little bit

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

Its taken a few years. I guess the first time I actually questioned myself and what I thought was my sexuality was when I met a girl



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

Nope. My friends assume, but I haven't come straight out.

My family. No way. I kinda let it slip to my Aunt on Thanksgiving about it. And she caught it, but she just smiled and winked. Thank god for secrecy, huh?

10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?

Most difinately. I really lean a lot more towards girls than guys. But there's the occassional guy.



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

[AshWeezer]

Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

bisexual, leaning towards lesbian.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Yes and opposite.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

15.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



d. date both.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



b. somewhat comfortable.



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I still havent completely accepted my sexuality.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

Yes. A year or so.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



b. hesitant to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



a. with someone of the same sex.



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

I havent fully accepted my sexuality but I was just young and stupid when I had sex for the first time with a girl.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

I didnt really think of it as like gay sex or whatever, it was just sex to me.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



a. reinforce your sexual identity.



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

[willowsgirl]

Heya, I thought that as everybody else seems to be doing this, Id jump in and help out too! So here goes...



Age: 20



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Bisexual



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Um, I think both! I was in primary school, and I remember riding my bike past a guys house 10 billion tmes just to see him. But I also always liked my best friend Becca.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



The first time I was aware of proper feelings and attraction was when I was 15. But going to an all girls school for 7 years, I was always around girls I ...ahem...admired, before that!



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



I guess about four years, more through lack of opportunity than anything. But that was just one girl, we met on the net than met up and went on a couple of dates but nothing happened.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



Well as my grand total of girls Ive dated is..er...1, and Ive been out with lots of guys, I guess Im more comfortable with guys. But prob only cos Ive not dated enough girls!



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



I had a couple of friends at school, and at the boys school, who were bi. They made it alot easier to come to terms with things myself.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



A couple of friends back home, but no family. At uni alot of my friends assume, but I dont dance around shouting it at the top of my voice!



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?

N/A



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



Hope that was ok for ya!



stace xx

[Tempest Duer]

Just for argument's sake, I'll respond as female. What the hell, it's my genetic makeup.



Age: 16



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Sure.

2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Same.

3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

Uh... six?

4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

c. not date at all



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

N/A

6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

women.

7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

Wasn't an issue.

9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

It's pretty clear.

10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual" (Well, it's more of a "DUH!")



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

I got laid ASAP... which meant about a year.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

Dunno.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain) I already knew who I was. The sex was just fun.



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex? N/A



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

N/A

Willow: Hey Buff. One more thing. Buffy: Yeah? Willow: I’m gay. Buffy: Okay, Will. Xander owes me ten bucks.

~Remember to Breathe by Yellow Cray

[sprhrgrl]

As Tempest Duer alluded to, "opposite" and "same" sex are kind of tricky to some of us. . . I identify as genderqueer (that is, not fitting within the gender binary) and so does my partner. . . But yeah, female bodied, girl-identified for most of my sexual history. So. Additionally, sex and gender are different things.



Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Pansexual. All the goodness of bisexuality, but allowing for the fact that gender isn't binary.



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

It was on a girl, in second grade. I realized somehow that it was Wrong. I wanted to kiss her, but due to the Wrongness, I kissed my hand and touched her with it instead.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

See above, I suppose.



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



I first dated boys in a giant swirl of denial, and then soon after girls. . . This wasn't in second grade, but in middle school.



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

n/a



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

n/a



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable. . . with my pansexuality

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I feigned crushes on boys through elementary school, dated them in middle school, and then met a beautiful boy who wore pants made out of a pride flag and danced on the table in the cafeteria in a dress.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

I came out to my mother in tenth grade - a year or so after I'd begun to seriously consider myself as bisexual. My father a year later, I think, maybe two. I haven't come out to them as genderqueer yet, but the pansexual label seems . . . logical. . . considering who I'm dating.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other I explain to them how thinking within the gender binary can be hurtful, and give them a fun lecture on pansxuality. I'm an activist, by the way.



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15

My answers are discussing consensual, premeditated sex.



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

It took finding a girl I loved. Two years since I'd self-identified as queer.



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

No. . . I did rash things with boys in middle school due to my fear of my sexuality, in attempts to prove that I was straight. I was labeled a slut and moved on.



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity (oh, lesbo street cred)

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:



a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

Sweetie, I'm a fag. I been there. - Tara (Dead Things shooting script)

A muscle cramp? in your. . . pants? - Tara (Older & Far Away)

I can scramble an egg, I won't eat it but I can scramble it. - Amber

Edited by: sprhrgrl  at: 11/30/03 11:58 pm

[slayer747]

Age:



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

90% LESBIAN 10% BISEXUAL2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

YES. SAME SEX

3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex? GEEZE... AT SIX YEARS OLD, PERHAPS

4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.? I ACCEPTED IT WHEN I WAS 17, THOUGH I'VE ALREADY THOUGHT ABOUT IT FOR YEARS...SO I GUESS IT WAS TIME.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

YES. IT TOOK ME A YEAR TO COME OUT TO MY FRIENDS. AS FOR MY FAMILY, THEY HAVE CLUES, BUT I NEVER CONFIRM THOSE.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex? YES



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

"part of forever is better than none"

[Shinnen]

Age: 24



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Lesbian, definitely



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

yeah, i liked my dad's friend's daughter who was a year younger than me.



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?Very young, maybe 6 or 7 years old



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

c. not date at all



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

Women



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

Generally i knew i was different from other girls in my school. So i knew i like girls and i was pretty much accepting. My family isn't that great if they knew i'm gay.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?No, but i would come out to them when the right person comes along at the right time.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

CheerZ

Shinnen



She's the most amazing girl in the whole world. She's the only girl who makes my heart beat faster and slower at the same time. When I'm not with her, I'm not living. I'm not existing until I can hold her in my arms again.

[Renee85]

Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



Lesbian...100%





2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



Same sex, 6th grade...her name was April...sighs...





3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



I wasn't really thinking about attraction as a kid, I was only concerned about school and TV, and I'm still pretty young now...but I guess it started in middle school...shrugs...





4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you



a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



A...date people of the same sex



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



I didn't start dating until recently, so...six or seven years since I first had the...feelings.



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both? N/A





7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?



a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



A. Very comfortable





8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?





I think it was just a matter of being true to myself and everyone around me, that and the support I have from my friends has given me the courage to come out. But don't get me wrong, I was a bit hesitant.





9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?





I just recently did, they weren't as surprised as I thought they'd be...shrugs...I must not have hidden it well.





10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:



a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other





A. I'm not shamed so I'm quick to say it, but I also don't believe in labels.





The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



I'm still a virgin and proud of it...so I'm skipping the question.







11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......







15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



Absolutely...it's just a matter of time.







16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

_____________________________________________________________________





For some life lasts a short while, but the memories it holds last forever. -L. Swenson

"You make a place for her in your heart, it's sort of like she becomes a part of you. Does that make sense?" - Tara

[jeepchick scully]

Age:

19

1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

lesbian

2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

I honestly don't remember



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

Around 13



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both

A



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

6 months



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me

e



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

It took me probably 3 years to come to accept my sexuality. It was actually Ellen DeGeneres who helped me come to terms with it.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

yeah, i have. took me a year



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other

A but I actually say "yep, I'm gay"



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female

A



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?

It was 4 or 5 years after when I first had sex with ANYONE. It was only because I was looking for the right person to share that experience with



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)

it didn't really make any difference.

14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)

C...I already was comfortable with my sexuality before I had sex for the first time so other than make me love the person even more it didn't effect me.



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?

na



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me

na

[Gatito Grande]

Age: 41



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?



This question just never gets any easier for me! To the extent I'm female (as assigned, as currently seen by the world, as matches my parts), then probably lesbian (now). To the extent I'm not, it's safest to say bisexual (still).



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?



Yes. "Opposite"---but it was still somewhat kinky: it was my cousin Scotty (He was 18, I was 6. Moreover, I swear, it was just his bitchin' GTO! )



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?



Hard to say. I had a "homosexual panic" at 16 (involving a girl in gymnastics class), before I'd had sexual attraction to *anybody*. The first time I could sort of acknowledge (to myself) a same-sex attraction, was in the same year I came to intellectually/morally "approve" of homosexuality, my freshman year in college (age 18: FWIW, my crush was the late reporter Jessica Savitch).



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



It took a full 6 years to come to acknowledge my bisexuality (age 24: I know, I know, terribly slow learner). After that, I soon attempted to date people of the same sex . . . it's just that I kept striking out (w/ straight and/or "confused" girls. Aaaaargh!)

So while my answer should be "d", it's functionally "b".



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



Of late my answer is "c", but I'm definitely more comfortable w/ same-sex (women) now.



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



I guess it's pretty obvious that my answer is "d" (though strangely enough, I was pretty damn comfortable IDing as bi, until I fell into---embraced?---gender confusion).



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homosexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?



Eh, you asking me? In the early years (ages 18-24), my church (Episcopal) was a big help . . . still is, actually. In terms of coming out to my family (and being comfortable enough in my gender/sexuality ID to know exactly *what* to come out to my family as), still workin' on it (so that would be about 17 years and counting . . . )



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?



Of all the people I have known since before I knew I was bi, I have come out to one, my best friend (there have been a couple of others, but due to extenuating circumstances, I'm pretty sure they have forgotten). Since my self-realization, I have come out to quite a few people I have met (including my ex-husband, whom I came out to early in our relationship).



I am not out to my nuclear family (father, mother, brother). I absolutely will come out to them, no later than when I begin (please dear God! ) a serious relationship w/ a woman . . . if not sooner (now, unfortunately, is a very *bad* time to do so )



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



To my knowledge, I have been asked this question only once, by my aunt (she's one of the "others" inc. above w/ my best friend). I don't think I hesitated to answer ala "a" (however, the extenuating circumstance: she sounded, over the phone, pretty wasted. So I don't think she remembers )





The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



b, my ex-husband (my one and only to date )



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



n/a



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



I don't really understand the question. I don't doubt that my own struggle to understand my gender/sexuality ID has affected my ability to get together sexually w/ a person of the same-sex (though if Gina had said "yes" to me back in '87 . . . )



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



n/a



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?



n/a



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



[*NB: one (a female) could have had sex only w/ a person(s) of the opposite-sex, yet still know one was lesbian (relating to the assumption embedded in the question).]



Right *now*, I'm somewhere between "b" and "c". My impoverished/unemployed status makes me an inappropriate romantic partner. I won't seriously attempt to put myself out there, for the lovin', until I'm gainfully employed. AND YET . . . in terms of desire, I'm very much in the "lookin' for the right one" emotional space.



GG Hope this helps, LiquiDreams! Thanx for askin'! Out

[Imjustme]

Age: 21



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

bi with a heavy pref. towards women

2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex? same



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex? around 5th grade



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

depdens on your def. of date but both I guess



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?

both

7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

very comfortable as long as it dosen't include family wise lol ok I guess that would be somewhat





8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.? I always accepted it it's just getting others to



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future? friends yes and select family



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

depends on the person asking





The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

with someone of the opposite sex



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex? I came to terms with it I'm just really shy



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......) no



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

reinforce your sexual identity







I think I messed that up copy and paste wise so sorry in advance

[intricate mirage]

Age: 18



1. Do you consider yourself to be lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc.?

Lesbian



2. Do you remember your first crush as a child? If so, was it with someone of the same or opposite sex?

Same sex



3. When do you first remember being attracted to someone of the same sex?

10 years old



4. After realizing you were attracted to the same sex, did you

a. date people of the same sex

b. date people of the opposite sex

c. not date at all

d. date both



5. If your answer to question #4 is "a," approximately how long did it take you to date people of the same sex?

About 2 years later



6. If your answer to question #4 is "c," are you more comfortable with men, women, or both?



7. How comfortable are you with being gay or bisexual?

a. very comfortable

b. somewhat comfortable

c. not comfortable

d. still trying to figure things out

e. it isn't even a question for me



8.How long did it take you to accept your sexuality? What helped you come to terms with your homesexuality or bisexuality? Was it a matter of time, another person, your family, etc.?

I didn’t exactly have a problem with it, I just took it as it is. Although I only found out at the age of 12 that liking someone of the same sex means I’m lesbian, so upon finding out, I was like ‘That’s nice. Now I know what it’s called.’ I know it’s odd, but oh well. Hehe.



9. Have you come out to friends and family? If yes, how long did it take for you to come out? If no, do you see yourself coming out to them some time in the future?

Came out about a year after I accepted my sexuality.



10. When asked whether or not you are gay or bisexual, are you:

a. quick to answer "yes, I'm gay/bisexual"

b. hesitant to answer "yes. I'm gay/bisexual"

c. quick to answer "yes, I'm straight"

d. hestitant to answer "yes, I'm straight"

e. will not answer the question because you don't believe in labels

f. just laugh off the question and move on to the next topic

g. will not answer this question no matter who asks

h. other



The following questions are about sex so if you don't want to answer these, that's ok......If you have not had sex, skip to question #15



11. The first time you had sex was it:

a. with someone of the same sex

b. with someone of the opposite sex

c. with two people, one male and one female



12. Approximately how long did it take you to come to terms with your sexuality and then have sex with someone of the same sex?



13. Did you feel that it took more or less time to have sex for the first time because you were gay/bisexual? (I hated how he worded this question......)



14. Did having sex with someone of the same sex for the first time:

a. reinforce your sexual identity

b. make you question your indentity

c. other (if your answer is "c" briefly explain)



The following two questions are for those that have not had sex at all or have not had sex with someone of the same gender......



15. If you have not had sex, are you comfortable enough with your sexuality to say that your first time will be with someone of the same sex?

Yup comfortable enough with my sexuality to say that my first time will be with someone of the same sex.



16. If you are bisexual and have not had sex with someone of the same sex, are you:

a. still trying to figure out if you want to have sex with someone of the same sex

b. still trying to find the right person

c. just not interested in having sex with anyone right now

d. just not interested in having sex with someone of the same sex right now

e. in a relationship with some of the opposite sex

f. just isn't an option for me



Alrighty, hope this helped

Cassie





I don't mind being alone

I just don't want to be alone without you

[Karmah]

Age: 28

1. lesbian

2. same

3. my 20's

4. a

5. several months

6. n/a

7. a

8. years it was a matter of time before I accepted it and once I did its all good

9. all my friends know and my syblings ... my parents umm no

10. H "I tell them I am not gay but my girlfriend is" and let them figure it out

11. b

12. n/a

13. n/a

14. C it did neither

15. yes

16. n/a

What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

~ by Ralph Waldo Emerson ~