Tales of the Dumped

[Sandbox]

I’ve been reading some very nice tales of romance over in the “Where did you meet your girl” thread and sharing in the warm fuzziness of true love , but alas, being recently… let go, I’m much more at home with the “dumped on my ass” crowd. And, since misery loves company, I’m looking to hear some good old-fashioned tales of Dumpage!! Not only does misery love company, but they also report that laughter is the best medicine! So, please, revel with me (or wallow as you see fit) in the worst of all clichés, the “I’ve been dumped” tale of woe.





Ms. Right and I had been friends for many years and unofficially together for about 18 months, living in the same city, and generally having a grand ole time. Meanwhile, back home, my father had been struggling with leukemia and things weren’t looking as hopeful as we previously thought. I decided to move home to be closer to him until we had a better prognosis, leaving steady employment and Ms. Right behind. Over the course of the next several months, we flew back and forth for visits, talked everyday, and were actually making a pretty good go at long distance romance… until the 5th month when the name “Katie” seems to finds its way into all our conversations. Yikes!



Now, I try to give the benefit of the doubt… Ms.Right is a teacher and Katie is a senior in high school whom she has taken under her wing, nothing amiss there, right? Ugh. I do my best at playing dumb, which doesn’t work, so I finally ask, “So what’s the deal with Katie?” Ms.Right lays on the guilt trip for my implications and I kindly withdraw the question, knowing all along that Ms.Right has in fact moved on. We go another month, me wishing I was wrong, Ms.Right leading me to believe that she hasn’t called as much due to end of the year school stuff.



Our parents live in the same state and Ms.Right comes home for a summer visit when school ends, only this time I seem to be the annoying preview instead of the main feature of the visit. She manages to “drop by” on her way to somewhere else and we see each other for 2 hours… a "no touching, can’t get out of here fast enough" visit, but still no confession.



The ultimate confrontation takes place 2 days later at 1am via, get this, Yahoo Instant Messenger!! Eek! Not only does Ms.Right not have the guts to tell me in person, she can’t even muster the courage to do it over the phone! All the same, my suspicions are confirmed… I’m unemployed, my father is seriously ill and Ms.Right has left me for an 18-year-old, just graduated former student, who bares more than a striking resemblance to me and they have enjoyed 3 weeks of lustful bliss prior to the IM confession. Cough. Sputter. Ugh. Ms.Right’s excellent sense of timing is killing me!



Dumped via IM for the younger model… ohh, the humanity!



There you have it! So humor me and bring on the misery!!

[theatremouse]

sandbox, ouch. major ouchness. that sucks.

anywhoo, my only major dumpage stories are those involving chicks along the lines of "really hot straight girl good friend" (who very obviously has some lesbian tendencies) but unfortunately is a devout something or other and in the camp of "that's wrong" not in a Cant-Be-Friends-With-Gay-People sort of way, just in a Never-Gonna-Act-On-Impulse kinda way. so suffice it to say, i never learn a lesson, am more of an idiotic torchbearer than William the Bloody, and have this lovely cockamamey idea in my head than when they come to me, and want to use me, even though i know theyll then be semi-horrified with themselves, and will thusly run off to their boyfriends, whom they no longer want to be with anyway, i say Bring It On, somehow thinking i'll be able to convince them otherwise of the postparty running off..... BUT it does not work, and is always inevitably some girl whom i'm dearly close to, thusly creating a mental conundrum of misery for myself, that is quite frankly, COMPLETELY my own fault.

i think perhaps the stupidest feeling there is on earth is misery, when you know there's no point in the misery (though also no way to just eliminate the misery) when the whole thang is both pointless and your own fault.

major major suckiness.

in short, i'm a big huge idiot, who only tendency towards optimism, backfires.



peace out.

Willow: It's horrible! That's me as a vampire? I'm so evil and... skanky. And I think I'm kinda gay.

[WiccansIllusion]

I think I have the ultimate online dumpage story.



J and I had met 6 years ago in a Xena RPG chat room. We roleplayed a lot, talked a lot and had 6 hr phone conversations over the past 2 years. We finally meet in person. She's scarred and doesn't talk to me. Which is understable since she's recently bi.



Over the past 3 and a half years she asks me back, I drive to see her which was only 2 hrs from here, every time she did, and the next morning sends me a lengthy email about how she isn't attracted to me [despite the fact that I was the best sex she ever had.] Anyways to make a long story short, she's actually a very good friend now and we still talk a whole lot. But, yeah, so...I'm all depressed now.

Tara nodded in agreement "She has magic fingers." Then, as though the words had just echoed back to her and sounded not at all right, she perked up and glanced around at the others. "On the keyboard."

TheWisdom of War, Chris Golden

'My heart is cleverer then I and it knows what to do.'-MC Legends of the Kiss

[snippygal]

My new favorite thread!

I'll try to humor, but this story isn't that funny.



So, January 1999, 2 weeks after I came out to my parents, I mer "her" online. Actually, I accidentaly clicked on her personal ad, but noticed the area code was Orlando -- "Hey," I thought to myself. "I'm going to Orlando to visit my sister in March". So I wrote to her. I was living in Montana at the time, going to college. I didn't expect too much to come from this. But as it turns out, I was talking to the most wonderful, perfect, amazing woman in the world. I fell in love with her in an instant. AND she fell in love with me. For the first time in my life, I was happy.



When I met her for the first time, I stepped off the airplane and looked for her, peeking through all the people and just trying to get past them and find her. And then I saw her and it was like slow motion in a movie.



So, for a year and a half, while we were both finishing up school, we did the long distance thing. Finally, In May 2000, 2 days after graduation, I moved to Orlando to be with the girl. After a year, we moved in together, to her apartment. The lease was up in 3 months and then she and I and her roommate would get a bigger apartment. We found a townhouse, the roommate would live with us for a year to save money and then we'd turn her bedroom into an office. Life was good.



Or was it.



I'd like to list the reasons why things started going downhill, but the truth is, I'll just say that life got in the way. We still loved each other very much. We just stopped liking each other. Finally, after fighting and fighting for weeks and weeks, 8 days before we moved into the townhouse together, we broke up. I suggested it, and she didn't argue. The sad thing is, I suggested it, expecting her to disagree.

However, we couldn't get out of our lease and it was too late to find a new place for either me or her to go and neither of us could afford it, SO -- as crazy people do sometimes, we still moved in together!



2 months after the break up, she started seeing someone else. They got serious. Very serious, very quickly. They moved in together this past April. She finally JUST finished moving the rest of her stuff out.



It's been a little over a year since we broke up and I still miss her and I still wonder if we were supposed to be together but we just blew it. We didn't try hard enough. Maybe we were both just too young to know how to handle it all. I sleep as little as possible at night because the bed is way too big. I don't date because I don't see the point. I don't believe in love anymore. I have become so cynical and jaded that I barely have time to smile these days. And I just realized I've gone on and on and should just put the period at the end of the sentence.



Thanks for letting me vent.



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- "Pain makes you interesting. Look at Elvis."
- "Didn't Elvis kill himself?"

- "Yes, but before that he was very interesting."

[WbBuffyfan00]

Snippygal....I wrote a long post that was pretty close to your story. Unfortunately the internet demon ate it. If you would like to talk about this....god knows I need someone who's been in my shoes to talk to....feel free to email me. WbBuffyfan00@aol.com



-Amy

"You want to take a picture of my butt? um...ok...you've got two seconds". -Amber

[La]

Well, mine isn't so much a story about getting dumped, since we were never together, but it still pisses me off.



So my last semester at college (I graduated a semester early, so it was everyone else's first semester of their senior year, but my second semester), I lived in a townhouse (with 3 friends) next door to this woman (and 3 of her friends). She and I had met twice before, one in a Vassar Chicago alum club meeting for soon-to-be freshman back when we were just starting, and once again when we were sophomores and both got a ride home from the same professor who had also been on our flight back from chicago after a break. Then when we were living next door to each other, we met again. And we were both part of the Pagan circle and we became good friends. And I had a huge crush on her. But we were friends so I didn't act on it, cuz i didn't want to mess things up (you know how it goes...) So we kept talking and emailing and everything even when I moved back home and whenever she was back in Chicago we'd hang out. Then summer came and we hung out some more, cooked together (we both like to cook) went to Six Flags together. Then it was July 4th, the day before I was leaving for Korea. My parents were throwing me a good-bye La/4th of July party and she came, of course. So later that night, I walked her to her car, and said something dorky like "i'd really like to kiss you right now," and SHE kissed ME. And then I went to Korea and she never emailed me again.



And my parents really liked her too.

~La

You know you’ve been in Korea too long when you return to the States, and instead of sitting on your bed to show a friend some photos, you settle down in the middle of the floor and she laughs at you.

[sparrow]

Long story really short cus the long version is just too long and so complicated





We were friends for 6 years before we finally realized that we loved eachother. Everything seemed to be going great, boy stupid am I, then on our 1 year anniversary she calles me to say that she is not in love with me anymore and that our realationship has been a lie and that she can't see me anymore. Hello, I so missed all the signs. Found out later that she was still seeing her ex and someone else, who just happened to be a coke addicted. Due to this I've honed my brooding skills to a fine art.

And, yet, I just can't seem to care


I'm not coming back

[friskylez]

TheaterMouse, I can so relate to what you just said...I got involved with someone who was questioning her sexuality, she came on to me...Spent the nite one nite and got all cozy and i kept saying, nope, nope nope, but i eventually leaned over and kissed her...I thought id died and went to heaven, great lips, fabulous kisser, well needless to say, i was smitten...



Well to make a long story short, we were going to the local gay bar and everyone assumed we were a couple, had been seeing each other 4 months at that point..But one nite, she said she had come to a decision and she wasnt going to see me anymore, she wasnt a lesbian or bi and she was catholic and her friends wouldnt understand blah blah blah...



Well i was head over heels and was devastated to hear this..I decide if we couldnt be together that way, i liked her well enough to at least be friends, she said she didnt want that either..Excuse was she wouldnt be able to spend any time with me, seeing as how she had her other friends and "i" wouldnt want to hang out with them...I spent months trying to understand but to this day still dont know what happened...



The thing is she is such a wonderful person, funny, smart, cute and we were friends before anything started...I just dont understand and probably never will...

From Everythings Relative, .."the personal is political "

Edited by: friskylez  at: 10/19/02 7:27:11 pm

[Ittybittykitty]

Well let me tell you I may have never been kissed, but I have had heartache!



I went to a church conference back in early June to represent the "youth". I have a really good friend who recently came out to me who was also going and we hadn't seen each other since the year before. So we decided (like the smart people we are) to room together so we could catch up on what had been going on and how great her current girlfriend was. And we talked about that for the whole first night until about two in the morning and then went to sleep.



Then we had to watch Harry Potter the next night.



Don't get me wrong, Harry Potter is a great movie. Educational and fun. But while we were watching it she fell asleep in my arms. Now when we went back to the room i jokeingly talked about how she had "used my body". Awkward silence. and then I had to be smart and say-



"You know... this is just unresolved sexual tension."



Well this resulted in a dozen or so episodes of "intense holding" and three "almost kisses". But her girlfriend told me if I kissed her I was dead, and I value my life quite a bit. (Although looking back I really wished I had just slammed her against the wall and given her the what-to-for of kissing) The sad thing is that we love each other, but we can't be together. the line she used was "I love you but I'm not IN love with you."



Yeah. That's been my life for the summer, trying to get over her, and let me tell you, it ain't easy.

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Edited by: Ittybittykitty at: 7/31/02 9:16:56 pm

[Sandbox]

I realize I am supposed to avoid gratuitous posting on my own thread , but I have to say to TheaterMouse & Friskylez, I so feel your pain. It is hard enough losing out in the romance department, but to also lose a wonderful friendship in the process is just murder on the heart.



Ms.Right and I had been friends for 5 solid years before either of us even considered the fact that we were attracted to each other. And, of course, that close friendship only intensified the romance. So not only did I lose my significant other, but I just lost my best friend!



It is just an awful feeling, because the only person I would really want to talk to about the pain and hurt is the damned person that caused it! I don’t know if we can ever be friends again, and that was just a devastating reality for the both of us when we talked about it. She actually said, and I quote, “I can’t imagine you not being in my life.” Ugh. Twist the knife why don’t ya!



So ends the mini rant! My original motivation for posting was very pure, I swear! I just want to say to TheaterMouse & Friskylez … I’m sending a great deal of empathy and sympathy in your directions.

[semiramis]

Ah friskylez, I know just what you went through. I've had only one "serious" relationship since I came out 8 years ago, and we met online. It took only a week before we decided to meet (we lived in neighbouring suburbs) and we were kissing the first night. Vita - tall, thin, dark haired butch country girl, me - short curvy city femme. We were besotted with each other immediately, and after watching "Portrait of a marriage" adopted the nicknames Vita and Violet. Sadly, this was a premonition of how things would end. She had recently left her second fiance, although she had had 2 girlfriends between 1st fiance & second. Her family was devoutly catholic, her mother especially. She was the second daughter, and it was "her" responsibility to provide her mother with a grandson, as her older sister couldn't have any more children and had *only* had girls. Together we were happy, but she wouldn't introduce me to her friends (she met all of mine) and when we accidently met one of them, she wouldn't identify our relationship. The friend guessed anyway, but refused to believe that it could be serious. And apparently told her that I was "too pretty and girly to be a lesbian". I did meet her older sister, with whom I got on famously. But as rumours spread throughout her family and social circle about me, she became increasingly uncomfortable, and started treating me very badly. Eventually I confronted her and she says she just can't do it any more, she has to think of her family, and then dumps me, over the phone, on my birthday................I cried for weeks.



18 months later, after her third engagement had broken up, she calls me and tells me I'm the love of her life and she realises her mistake. Because I am either stupid, desperate or terribly lonely (all three probably) I agree to try again. Within a matter of weeks her bad behaviour returns, never calling when she says she will, not meeting me at designated places, never introducing me to her friends....



So I dump her.......

[friskylez]

SemiRamis, Nice to know im not the only one this has happened to..Mine didnt call me at all, guess thats a good thing, ah but i still care very much and i really do miss her friendship



She ended up meeting some jerk of a guy, no job, living with his ex girlfriend blah blah blah, but she "loves" him Well she ended up getting pregnant, slept with a different guy when she was drunk one nite and of course being catholic wouldnt consider the alternatives..She had a baby boy in May...She is 21 years old...



Her "boyfriend" said he would still see her up until the baby was born, but he didnt know if he could still see her after that... I dont know if he held to that or not, i heard all this from a mutual aquaintance..



I sent her some baby clothes, but she never called to say thanks or even that she got them..I didnt really expect her to, i just wanted to let her know if she needed a friend i was still around..But i guess she doesnt..Oh well...

From Everythings Relative, .."the personal is political "

Edited by: friskylez  at: 7/31/02 9:08:13 pm

[friskylez]

Mouse, its good to vent isnt it Im liking this thread cause i can talk about all the shit that only my cat hears about At least youre getting the smooches, although it must be tough on ya that she goes back to the b/f...



Im very lucky to have loved 3 wonderful women in my life, they werent in love with me, but at least i had the pleasure of their company for awhile..Maybe that old addage "its better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all " is true eh

From Everythings Relative, .."the personal is political "

Edited by: friskylez  at: 10/19/02 7:34:37 pm

[Sandbox]

Quote:

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"the chemicals in the brain drive us to do rediculous things....."

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Oh so true. I hate my brain chemicals. Logic and better judgement take a dive just long enough for that kiss you know you should avoid, and then you're a goner... everytime. Damn!

[Broken hart]

well my break was like only a month ago so i'm still kind of angry and hating love and everything it stands for. I haven't watched a single romantic film coz do i really want a reminder of what i don't have any more NO!!!! I'm gonna leave the anger behind and continue my story of heart ache!

Ok well we'd been together a while and everything was fine we didn't really argue very much with is good coz arguments get bigger and bigger then no relatioship, i'm going of track again. The only thing we did argue about was my flirting, i tend to flirt alot, and i get hit on by guys a bit. She hated this and i understand why if guys were hitting on her all the time i would have been bloody annoyed! About 2 months ago the agruments started and they were bad. But she didn't realize i didn't want any one else i just wanted her. Then one night Layla (bitch) told D that i had slept with Ryan and i hadn't. Well in anger D went and slept with her ex. It kills me just to type it down. But the next day she found out Layla had lied, she pretend for a while that nothing had happened between them and didn't tell me. But it didn't take long for word to travel back to me, i didn't want to believe it though. Then one night i asked her and she broke down told me all about it. It felt like someone had ripped my heart out, it still does. I love her so much, but i can't be with some one who can do that to me. And every time i'd be with her i'd keep thinking about her and her ex and that isn't they way to have a relationship.

I feel better for tell you thanks!!!

The heart was made to be broken.

[goul]

Hello to you all!

I don't know if I should be posting here 'coz I haven't dumped, maybe I should say, not yet...

Ok, I'll try to make it short.

My gf and I have been together for 3 years and we've been living together for 2 1/2. She's a graphic designer and she's been having a hard time finding a job here in Lyon.

The thing is she's about to move to Paris because she found a job there which is a great opportunity but I can't go with her.

I have my studies to finish here...

Her moving there is quite of sudden. It was decided yesterday and she's moving at the beginning of september...

The truth is I'm scared to death of this being a death sentence to our relationship...

I love her so much and I know she loves me too, but she's gonna have a whole new life there...

I was wondering if any of you kittens experienced the same thing and how it worked out...

Thanks in advance for answers,

take care y'a all

Goul.

[Thanatopsis]

I wasn't dumped since technically we weren't together, but I did get used, so here it goes.



She was majorly screwed over by her gf who kept cheating on her. They were offically over about a year ago and she's still not over her. I'm the one she laments to about trying to get over her or how it hurts when she calls or emails.



I've been desperately in love with her for too long and she knows it, but she constantly talks about how much she loves her, how much she's hurting over her moving on and I'm always willing to listen cause that's what I do. I never really made a move cause of long distance and how she's obviously not over her ex.



Fourth of July weekend, she visits. (I'm in NY, she in Chicago) We sleep in the same bed, kiss, etc, everything but sex. She goes home, never mentions it and once again I'm her sounding board for her STILL trying to get over this girl.



Grrrr. I'm far too nice. Or stupid. I'm not sure which.

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Too many of us live desert lives. ~Charles de Lint

Edited by: Thanatopsis at: 8/3/02 8:45:38 pm

[Amymlc]

uhm Okay....maybe this shouldn't be posted here cause we are still together, but I am feeling very dumped right now. My gf...and love of my life....has not come out to her parents yet. she recently had dinner with her parents and they were talking about how she never dates. She didn't know what to say so she just said something about not having time, or hasn't found the right guy or something. Well...this is where it gets bad. They set her up for a date with a guy who is a son of one of their friends...and SHE IS GOING! She said it was just 'cause she needs to get her parents off her back, but I am just so upset. I've secretly been crying over it for the last few days. I know I shouldn't feel so bad because I know she loves me and she is just going to dinner with him so her parents stop harrassing her, but I am still feeling so "Lost and Delirious" (uh..thats a movie for those of you who haven't seen it). I feel horrible. Its like shes cheating on me, but not you know? I have all these stupid fears that shes gonna like him better than me, and what if I am just a phase or college thing or something? I don't know what to do. She's going on the date tonight, and to make it worse she is staying the weekend at her parents house...so I don't get to see her before or after her date. Ugh..... I think I'm gonna die.

They were right, I'm a homo--But I'm a Cheerleader

[wiccanwiggle]

Amymlc while i've personally never been in your position i'm sure you are going to find this weekend very difficult to get through. Just wanted to offer my 2 cents....



Just try to remember though that your girlfriend loves you very much. She has been with you for two years now so surely you can get through two days... If you feel the need to, try talking with her and letting her know your insecurities, you will probably feel they are nothing to worry about and she is just trying to get her parents to stop harrassing her and hates the whole thing as much as you do. Instead of leaving her with a sad and depressed Amy, leave her with something to look forward to and come back to. Leave her with the Amy she loves. Sorry if this is none of my business but i am just trying to help.



Finally can i leave you with some very loving words one Amymlc once said...



So not only is my gf the love of my life, but also the best friend I have ever had.

Everybody's Gettin' Spanked But Me...!

[Amymlc]

I know I shouldn't feel this way, but my gf is going on a date with a guy. Who her parents already love (her parents really don't like me because they think she spends too much time with me) and then my mind won't stop racing (I know...that's nothing new) and I have all these thoughts that she'll choose to be with who her parents like and approve of. This is both our first lesbian relationship so I keep thinking maybe she loves me but isn't actually a lesbian and is gonna figure that out later and leave me. And what if he tries to kiss her on the date? What if she kisses him back? AAAAAH....not thinking about that now....I am just being jealous insecure girl right now. I just needed to cry and complain, so thanks for letting me do that and for your kind reassuring words. I don't have a family to come out to, so I can't really understand what she is going through, so I should just calm down and try to understand. Thanks for letting me vent...I feel better now

They were right, I'm a homo--But I'm a Cheerleader

[Repost Moderator]

Originally posted by AmberBensonRockzMyWorld



Well, I don't know if I'm allowed to make a thread today or not, but, I decided what the hell, I'll go for it. Today, My g/f of 2 months and I broke up, I mean, it was really only an online/phone relationship, so I guess I was dumb to think it could work out. I was supposed to go and see her on Friday, However, Me being the dumb a$$ that I am, I forgot my license and they wouldn't let me on the bus. I'm so lame...I mean, honestly who the heck forgets their license knowing that they will need it? Anyways, I made this thread for other kittens to share some heart acheage...y'know...to vent a little and get it out.

love,

Lisa

[Spice Faerie]

Alright, I have a break-up story to share as well. Junior year of college I started hanging out with a girl who shared some mutual friends with me. She had previously been a commuter and was living on campus for the first time and the few friends she did have had just transfered. So, we started hanging out a lot, just friends and whatever. I knew she'd sort of dating a girl before but she'd never done anything but kiss and she'd never been with a guy either. Okay, so one night she kisses me and we end up sleeping together, end up dating and a few weeks later end up moving into the same dorm room together. Okay, so then I start pledging a co-ed fraternity and what does she do?...She decides to pledge too! So I introduce her to all my fraternity friends and to my other click of friends. Then, 3 months later she breaks up with me saying that she's not sure if she's gay or straight or whatever and she doesn't know what she wants out of life. Okay, whatever I can understand that so no big deal. To be honest I wasn't that heartbroken because I didn't really see where our relationship would go in the long run anyway BUT here's the catcher....She then proceeds to systematically turn all my non-fraternity friends against me (I have no idea what she could have possibly said but whatever it was it was harsh) and now all my old friends, anyone who's not in my fraternity on this campus hates me. What the fuck, right?! I mean, granted if they could be turned like that they couldn't have been that great of friends to begin with but still. It was like her campaigne or something. Her goal for the last two years was the make as many people as possible hate me. I found out later that she was really a psycho. Anyway, we graduated last year and now I'm a graduate student at the same school and even though she's gone there are still people on this campus who trash me as a result of whatever it is she said about me. That's so fucked up...



Spice

"No candles? Well, I brought one. It's extra flamey..."

[2trew]

Let's just say that "Hello, gay now!" is funnier when Willow says it to Anya than when your wife says it to you.

[Xtara1721]

Hey Sandbox and all those in close company. I feel very fortunate that you would start this thread now. I will do my best to make my long story short.



Three years ago, started dating a friend. We had known each other about a little over a year. It was fate...I was certain of it and so was she.

Without getting into too much of the dysfunction after living with each other for about 6 months, it was decided to let an ex of mine move in....I tried to warn my better half what she was getting into. Anyway, my ex was less than respectful and more than rude. Argument ensues. . I requested that my better half let it go, knowing the ex was trying to buy a house and leave. My better half and I started arguing over this relentlessly

Meanwhile we start looking for a place to buy and 6 months later find one. Go through closing, painting, moving in, etc...and one month she can't seem to bring herself to "see" me anymore. She moves out.

Now 11 months later she says to me a month ago "I don't want us to be apart a full year, give me a month". She was going to break up with the girl she told me wasn't her girlfriend and we could look at us. Well friends, her girlfriend is coming down tonight, she they can talk. I asked if this was too break up or work it out and she said "I don't know" She continues with "I am willing to hear what she has to say". When I asked about us, she said she didn't know what to about us. I am beginning to wonder if she doesn't have an "evil" Doppelganger.

Glad to know my misery is in good company. Feel free to offer words of wisdom and words of encouragement...because this time I have to cut my losses. I can't even be friends with her now...not after this.

Thanks for letting me get that out. You rock Sandbox for giving us an outlet.



DeAn

[Janie]

Yes, I should have known better. She doesn't like butterflies, you see. And I met her while she was dating an ex.



So, after they broke up, I called her a little more frequently. We talked for hours. She was still about about her break-up, and graduating from college, and moving to a new job. I didn't want to put the pressure on. After a party, where we spent the night in the same bed cuddling and stayed up all night talking (mostly about sex!), I thought I might have some hope.



I invited her over, and about 2:00 in the morning got up the nerve to tell her how lovely and wonderful she was, and to ask her if I might have a chance. Oh, yes, she said, and we had quite the romp that night. She had to go out of town for the weekend, and I spent that weekend floating. Then, I went over the next weekend, to find birth control pills and condemns in her bathroom. I asked, and she told me she was going back to boys...had in fact slept with one that week. Quite the self esteem smasher.



I listened to Ani DiFranco (mostly Untouchable Face) all the way home (about an hour and a half).



But on a lighter note, I had the satisfaction, when she called me a month ago in tears wanting another chance with me, of telling her to jump in a lake. Yay!

[oneyedchicklet]

I met my ex g/f at work. I was near the end of my marriage and I really didn't have anyone to talk to. Most of my friends were friends with my husband and didn't want to hear it. So I kind of leaned on her. My husband thought it was great that I had someone to talk to. (We started off ending our marriage on really good terms) Well, this woman and I started becoming closer and closer and I moved into a small apartment in her basement. It wasn't long before I started staying upstairs and in her room. Everything was great for two years. Then I was starting to have some problems with the ex husband because he had custody of our two children. He found out that her and I were involved and in order to keep my visitations with the kids, I was forced to get an apartment of my own were the kids would have a room to sleep in. They didn't care that I was sleeping with another woman but there wasn't a bedroom for my kids. So I moved out and got my own place. Except for when my kids were spending the weekend, my g/f would sleep here or I would stay by her. One night she called from work (we weren't working together anymore) and told me that she was going out with some people and she would talk to me the next day. I found out that she was sleeping with another girl that she worked with. I was dumped five days before my birthday. Needless to say, my birthday has pretty much sucked since.

Thats my story, not as bad as others but still I was dumped too.

On a good note, I have since met someone and once again I am a happy little Kitten.



Love to All,

Barb

i want to stand with you on a mountain, i want to bathe with you in the sea, i want to lay like this forever until the sky falls down on me.
jeg elsker dig min skat!!!

[hellmouthhottie20]

Ahh, A thread i think i belong in.

I guess that it must be something about me.

lets just say, i still love her and always will.

its a funny old world.

The very FIRST thing Neil Armstrong said when he landed on the moon - "theres no way a cow jumped over here"

[Mrs Vertigo]

Err... just delurking to this thread, though I don't really belong as I'm 16 and have never as much as had a serious relationship, to voice my support to you kittens. *hugs scorned kittens wholeheartedly*



My love to you all.

---
On Buffy, Season 7: “Bored now…”

[TwiLightJoy]

Lisa, you know I'm pulling for you, sweets!

Marj - same deal. I love you guys!!



I have a dumped story to share as well and I will try to make it brief. Probably because I'm over it and all, but at the time was totally devestated and it took me an entire year to start healing. So I met this girl at college. Very sweet, funny, intelligent, great-looking artist-girl with lovely hazel-green eyes. Fell pretty hard for her. We got together, there was all this bliss and stuff. We'd been trying to room together in the dorms, it took like God, 6 months? for them to finally move us into the same room. We did the whole push the beds together, cute little room togehter thing. Valentine's Day I got her a whole bunch of roses, which she loved.



A week later she dumped me. Said that she loved me but she can't love me the way I wanted her to. We both cried, me because damn it, I adored that girl, she because she knew that it was hurting me and there was nothing she could do about it. I asked if she wanted me to move out, and she said if I wanted to then she would let me. In the end I couldn't because I loved her too much, she was my best friend and it would be harder to not see her. But it was pretty damn hard when she started seeing a guy afterwards. Ack.



So yeah, to this day she is one of my very best friends, she is mega-happy for me and my gf (who she adores for finally making me see that there was someone out there for me ). Break ups suck. But I'd be a different person if it'd never happened and I am happy now, so.... That's all.



~Joy

Joy: The shapeshifter scared the poo outta me when it first came on!!!!!
tk: this whole speech about going back..wayyyyy back, to the beginning
Joy: the real beginning ... hopefully not the movie....

[miawillow]

Thanks Sandbox for starting this thread. I have been waiting for an opportunity to share this!



I guess I consider myself dumped. When I was a freshman in college I met the most awesome, beautiful, and amazing woman. I still remember seeing her for the first time. Our friendship grew and we spent more and more time together. Mostly she was crying over her ex-boyfriend. I never even considered that I could have a physical relationship with her (well, maybe in my imagination I did). She of course made the first move and it just went from there. But, we never told anyone. You all know the story, her family is extremely religious and they would never understand. She confessed her love for me, and I to her. This went on for almost two years! Then she started pulling away physically. We moved out of the dorm our junior year into a house. This did not help matters any. We still talked and went out together, but she moved into her own bedroom. Finally, she told me she didn't think that she was lesbian, didn't want to have that kind of relationship anymore, but still wanted to be best friends. I still love her. I am still her best friend, and she really is my best friend. But I am still in love with her. At least I think I am. I know it isn't healthy. We don't live together anymore, and she goes on and on about wanting to get married and have babies, with a guy!! I know I need to move on, but it is so hard. I really think we would still be together if she weren't so brainwashed by church and family. When I saw the movie "Lost and Delirious" for the first time, I could definitely relate. Thanks again for giving me a place to share! Any advice would be welcomed!

Tara: Every time I... even at my worst, you always make me feel special. How do you do that?
Willow: Magic