Gaydar Discussion Thread

[mscheckmate]

Musicians, too. Most musical instruments can't be played well with long fingernails. So, all of my straight female colleagues have very short nails. I'll have to ask them sometime if they ever get hit on by lesbians who see their short nails and just assume that they're family.

Xander: "Tara, nice axing." Tara: "My first."

Edited by: mscheckmate at: 9/25/02 11:16:15 pm

[twink]

first off the finger length study is amusing, but i'm sure it has it's great and many flaws. still a fun party discussion item.



fingernail length: yeah, definately can't play violin w/ long nails. well, some people try, but it just isn't gonna happen.



i'm out of the loop when it comes to the labrys ring thing. can someone give me a defintion/discription?



oh! where is the tread for that survey?



hope all you kittens have a good day, i'm off to work!

i'll check back in later this evening. (it's 7:30'ish in the AM here)

[cinemacell]

the survey can be found in one of the threads here... i think it was caled the "lesbian aptitude test" or something...



yup, i know about that thing with musicians, i play the guitar and can't have the long nails. however, i have a friend who has a friend who plays the violin... the violinist was straight and didn't want to cut her nails. what she did then was to cut the nails of the left hand and let the ones in the right grow. eventually, my friend told the violinist: "that just isn't gonna work." that was when she (violinist) decided to finally trim the ones from the right. somewhat a funny story...

[slayer747]

okay... this is completely OT... but i'm using a net cafe's computer and apparently, someone logged in and didn't log out properly, so i thought i was the one who's currently in (multiple windows were open) and i posted under the name cinemacell...



so, cinemacell please log out after you're done...



-Tiffany (slayer747)



p.s.



in short, the post above me was mine.

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"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong, and those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie "Once and Again"

[Hanki]

someone was asking about the gay symbols and stuff... handy dandy little site i found: www.enqueue.com/ria/

~ Han ~

Ravenshill ~ an original web series, a group of teen witches fight evil in an English town.

[Killin Joke]

Ooh, that was me. Thanks so much for the link, Han ! It was interesting to finally read about the history of these symbols.

"Visions dance throughout the night in the pale moon light in the witching hour" (Symphony X)

[Hanki]

anytime! i wanted to read up myself, glad i could help

~ Han ~

Ravenshill ~ an original web series, a group of teen witches fight evil in an English town.

[Killin Joke]

Still, sweet. I asked that question some time ago, and didn't expect a real answer anymore, but there you go I luv this board and the kitties on it.

"Visions dance throughout the night in the pale moon light in the witching hour" (Symphony X)

[WyrdOne8]

I have overdeveloped gaydar. I'm bi, so I mostly use it just for fun and not for any ulterior motives ...but I have yet to be wrong. It's really entertaining. I haven't met an excessive number of gay people yet (high school isn't terribly conducive to that), but I'm still proud of my perfect record. I knew that one of my friends was a lesbian 2 years before she came out...that's my best prediction. With my luck, however, as soon as I want to use the gaydar to my advantage, I'll be wrong. Oh well.

[Hanki]

killin joke: the advantage of latecomers to a thread

~ Han ~

Ravenshill ~ an original web series, a group of teen witches fight evil in an English town.

[twink]

amusing story slayer 747! i've seen that quite a few times.



also wanted to say thanks to hanki for the history link. very informational.

[lelak]

I have Gaydar on my Palm Pilot. *G*



I kid you not ... I'll try and find the URL for it.

[jeepchick scully]

I thought that my gaydar was broken when I first knew that I was gay. It seems to be working just fine now though. Maybe over time it becomes more accuarate.

[slayer747]

but you know what, there's really one girl in school that makes my gaydar all kablooey. really. i dunno... i just can't read her... well, maybe the fact that i'm in love with her is the reason, don't ya all think?



and, uh, gaydar on palm pilot? -- i want one!!!

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"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong, and those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie "Once and Again"

Edited by: slayer747  at: 9/30/02 10:26:42 pm

[Indygo]

If palm pilots really could detect lesbians, I'd definitely be making the investment...



Indygo

[Killin Joke]

/chuckle/ Luv latecomers. Am one myself most of the times. I just call it "fashionably late" (ok, often without the fashionable part, but still: charming). Life is such a rush: you have to calm down once in a while, and just take it easy

As far as gay-dar's concerned: I just hope it comes with the territory

"Visions dance throughout the night in the pale moon light in the witching hour" (Symphony X)

[slayer747]

don't you think it would be cool if you have a gay antenna of some sort... one that you put on your roof and you'd be able to detect all subtexts on the shows you're watching on your tv? just a thought...



edited to add:

it would sort of work like this: you are watching a rerun of the x-files and then there goes scully and reyes and a big flashing rainbow banner appears in the upper right hand corner of the screen. then you'd never have to argue with your friends again regarding scully's sexuality. the gay antenna say so already.

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"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong, and those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie "Once and Again"

Edited by: slayer747  at: 10/1/02 10:05:57 pm

[lelak]

Unfortunately, Indy, the palm pilot version is really for the boyz, but the joke is too good to waste...



And here's that URL I've been promising y'all...



<"http://www.minordemons.com/gaydar/index.html">http://www.minordemons.com/gaydar/index.html

[slayer747]

hey, that was nice... i visited the site... my friend already has it on her palm.



edited to add:

i hope i could have a shirt that only the really wise gay ppl will know the meaning of.

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"Sometimes things happen between people that you don't really expect. And sometimes the things that are important are the ones that seem the weirdest or the most wrong, and those are the ones that change your life." - Jessie "Once and Again"

Edited by: slayer747  at: 10/10/02 8:10:07 pm

[stillflygrlop]

I know I'm going to sound really juvenile asking this, but I'm pretty naive when it comes to girls so...take pity on an amateur



Anyway, so I'm walking down the hall and I see this really cute girl holding hands with another girl. Does this mean anything? Or am I trying to convince myself of something that isn't there? I've just never seen people do that at my school, unless in the past three years friends have started getting REAL friendly with each other and forgot to tell me!

[slayer747]

uhm... a girl holding another girl's hands doesn't mean anything, actually. in fact my best friend and i even cuddle and we are not a couple.



one of the things though that could set my gaydar on fire is when i look at their eyes. if they are a couple, you'd see the look that they have. it's really different.

Edited by: Warduke at: 11/5/02 8:43:20 pm

[ivyimonradio]

My girl friends and I hold hands all the time in public, it doesn't mean anything to me.

[KISMIC]

stillflygrlop, ahh I don't know about whether that says anything about that *particular* girl, but at my school my friends will sometimes hold my hand/arm, hug, kiss (on the cheek), lay on/across each other, etc. SO really that doesn't look like a sign at all, they're probably just good friends or one's a touch-y, feel-y type person! Anyway just my oppinion...


*~Kristy~*

[lustandrhymeremover]

Honestly, I think that's one of the reasons women have so much more trouble with gaydar than men. If you see a guy cuddling up with another guy - that's not real fitting with the whole macho image, usually. But girls are just naturally so much more bond-y and affectionate. Most of my friends, myself included, like to link arms, hug a lot, cuddle, sit on each other's laps, heck even 'I love you' is pretty common. But it never means anything beyond being friends.



I think slayer's right and you've gotta look in the eyes. Or really obvious signs - ie, random neck kissing and those cute little subtle touches. Other than that you've just gotta take it all with a grain of salt. Or maybe a whole shaker.

[stillflygrlop]

Yeah, I kind of thought as much. I mean, my friends and I say "I love you" all the time, but it's really all in good fun. We'd just never hold hands while walking down the hall, though we do loop arms sometimes. I guess it's just a common thing (like Spanish people greet others with a kiss on the cheek).



*sigh* it was good while it lasted.

[kukalaka]

I had a little triumph tonight:



I watched a show on TV and one of the candidates really made my gaydar go all crazy. And when the host asked her who was accompagnying (sp?) her she introduced her "friend" (Now "Freundin" in German can mean anything. There isn't really a clear term for girlfriend (or boyfriend), anything else than "friend" sounds as if you're about to get married.) Anyway, the host asked her "But you're not getting married, are you?" (The candidate before her wanted to win money for his wedding.) and she said "No... not yet." Woo-hoo



Edited to add that the friend was female as that is kinda important

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Wenn Du denkst, Du denkst, dann denkst Du nur, Du denkst, denn beim Denken der Gedanken kommst Du nur auf den Gedanken, daß das Denken der Gedanken ein gedankenloses Denken ist.

Edited by: kukalaka at: 10/26/02 2:59:53 am

[Nix42]

Love this thread.



I've got a new one for you. My straight friend insists that all lesbians wear a ring on their little finger. She doesn't specify which hand, but it always makes me smile coz no ring on me!

[missspangles]

lol - that's a good one actually! I completely go under most people's gaydar - it's really annoying when people ask me if I have a boyfriend....I just glare at them and tell them that I'm not seeing anyone...but that if I was, it wouldn't be a boy! I do have a little ring that I could wear on my little finger. Maybe I'll go and find it. What's the deal with pierced ears for girls? I know there used to be some sort of thing for piercing and guys...

[KISMIC]

Hmm I hadn't heard the one about wearing a ring on the small finger, that's a new one.





The belief was that gay guys wore one earing in just there left (I think) ear. Where-as the belief for gay women was that they wore a tongue ring - which really doesn't seem to work anymore seeing as the new 'in thing' is tongue rings.

[slayer747]

how 'bout a tattoo? i'm thiking of getting one, i just dunno what yet...

Edited by: BytrSuite at: 11/4/02 10:32:15 pm