It's Secret Crush Monday MKF 9/02

[frenchrose888]

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Was it hands on learning?

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Sadly, no.

But hey, she did say I always was very good at tongue-twisters, so... It's a fond memory.*g**

Rose, realizing how pervie her studies sound...

[Chewster]

Hmmm secret crush... well there was really just the one in my past. In my first year of university, living in the same flat - which made life interesting. I was... well I was crushing in a big way. Obsessing and generally thinking that I was in love.

Long story short she broke up with her BF and what did I do? I helped them get back together without saying a word to her. Courage in these matters not my greatest attribute but I can look back and feel all good about it now.

And did she ever find out? Well it wouldn't be a secret if she had.

[lustandrhymeremover]

Why isn't my speech class that much fun? I can honestly say that that class doesn't have a single fond memory for me... Sigh.

Crushes though, I have those in abundance. Right now I have this major crush on this girl I go to school with. She's new this year, but we got along right away. She's cute, smart, and above all - she gets my jokes. As someone who is constantly joking but usually rewarded with a sea of blank faces that is a wonderful, wonderful thing.

Ah but for the pity of the silent crush...

[bowieinberlin]

One of the things I learned in junior high was that if one has a crush, one will look forward to school. (one cubed, ha ha, anyway) So 10 years later, I'm still finding myself a secret crush or two to give me that extra boost of motivation to attend class.

Right now I've got two... and class has never been so enjoyable. Of course, I'm starting to think my prof can tell that I'm staring at certain individuals instead of him. Well, since I've got two of his classes, maybe he just thinks I'm spacey... (which I am when checking out said crushes).

What I like the most is that these people can be whomever I want them to be... aah, the beauty of the crush.

[Rachel o4]

This is the freakiest thing. I was just haveing a conversation last night about someone I had a crush on.

She's a year older than me and I played basketball with her; I was also in band with her. *sigh* she has such talent.

I remember this one time at band camp, I had worn a bandana and we were outside for about six hours marching and stuff. Needless to say, I had a tanline that went all the way across my forehead. Of course, being me, I hadnt thought of that and I had no Idea, she pointed it out to me and couldn't stop laughing. but not in an "Im laughing at you" kind of way just a "that's too funny" kind of way.

she has such a pretty smile tho...

[Tulipp]

See, when I think of my crush on Riley, or on the crushes I've had on many, many women, I tend to think of it as a kind of platonic thing....not that sometimes those crushes haven't had romantic or sexual elements, but sometimes there's just a thrill to a friendship that feels like a crush, even when there isn't any sort of sexual element.

But maybe that's no fun for this thread.

[Rane018]

this is such a good idea, ruth. so cute to read about crushes.

i too, tulipp, am quite close to losing my lesbo street cred. my two current crushes are guys. with one of them i actually went on a date with this weekend. it was very, very cool. sure to see him again.

It felt so odd at first to realize i was crushing since it's been so long since i've dated a guy (like 7 years). but one of them is so adorable with his chumbawamba looks and blue eyes. the other one has an australian accent and i love brittish like accents.

i'm in love with ruth's voice in chat. *drool* especially when she rhymes and sings. hehe... and in chat i love Ten Ten too. his accent is awesome as well: aboot... kittens and their accents... sigh...

i'm oblivious to people crushing on me me though. i never take their flirting seriously maybe cause i suck at flirtinng. lol.

editing to reply to toni below:
hehe, toni. there are tons of people, i'm positive. like, for instance that crush i have on that one guy i aformentioned with blue eyes hasn't even hinted at liking me at all. hence, why i went out with the other one. lol...

extra stuff- as for online crushes, i dont get them. you dont really know the person. sure you can see a photo and chat with them once in a while, read thier posts but it's cvertainly not the same. like someone posted above, i like being able to see, hear, feel, smell, etc the person.

[Kieli]

I had so many when I was younger, it was totally pitiful. The one that stands out in my mind was Kate, god love that evil straight woman. She flirted with me endlessly at the uni and had several classes with me. Then one day when she had my undivided attention for three straight hours she proceeded to tell me how her favourite ways to have sex. Needless to say, that ride home was pure torture. If I have any crushes now, I plead the fifth. I wouldn't want to be sleeping on the floor for the next several weeks

And how could anyone NOT have a crush on you, Rane? Good lord, anyone who doesn't must be mad.

[Elianna]

My secret crushes are remaining secret!

I enjoy them ever so much, but never when I say anything.

I just love having secret crushes (as I do on several Kitties, some probably know who they are, and some probably don't) because they are uncomplicated. You just like the person. You don't have to worry about making time for them, or how they feel about you.

-Elianna

[BoredNow99]

Gotta say I was having a lean time secret crush-wise before I found the Kitten.

After that, I was like a kid in a sweet shop. So many funny, intelligent, warm-hearted women to choose from

But a few Kittens have made a big impression, though I'll never tell who Well, they wouldn't be secret otherwise, would they?

[friskylez]

well yes crushes are secret but i know it makes someone feel good when they discover another admires who they are...Hopefully it puts a smile on their face, they can keep their reaction secret

[oneyedchicklet]

Ruth, this is a great idea.
My secret crush isn't really a secret anymore. She knows how I feel about her and she's been great about it. I thought she would freak out when I told her but she didn't. We talk every day and she always tells me that she loves me. I finally had the courage to tell her how I feel and that I not only love her as a friend. She handled it much better then I expected.
Its a computer thing and I know in my heart that I will never see her but she says we will meet face to face someday. That is what gets me through everyday. She lives quite far but when I come home from work, she's online and just as eager to talk to me as I am to her. We are always there for each other. And I know that no matter what time of day or night, I'll be there whenever she needs me.

Oh and Ruth, I'll admit it, I'm quite smitten with you. Maybe its your fic and your way with words. Or maybe its your British accent and when you put your dangling boobies in your posts. That just gets me every time.

Love to All,
Barb

[Rosenberg]

If the topic is secret crushes, I guess I cant divulge the identity of the online person Im crushing on because then it would no longer be secret. I suppose Ill just give a couple of clues so the more astute kittens can try to unravel the mystery. Lets seeshe British and currently living in England for the time being; shes an extremely talented writer and very bright and witty when not contending with bouts of bitterness and cynicism. Im sure this secret crush will remain my secret forever. Sigh.

I havent had too many crushes since high school, although there have been a couple of women at work that Ive had to be careful around. My major high school crush was on my Spanish teacher. I never liked Spanish but I took it for four years just so I could be around her. She wound up getting engaged my senior year and I was heartbroken, although at that time I didnt quite understand why.

[Kalita]

Oh, if we go back to my high school years, I've got a big list...

-My Society (a history/anthropology thing) teacher. Smart, erudite and very nice on the eyes. She was married and much older, but it didn't stop me from looking...

-One of the French teachers. I never had a class with her, but I did see her often in the hall etc. I was quite a sucker for the accent (genuine BTW). Also, very nice hair.

-A friend of mine, one of the most left-wing people I'd ever met at that point. Vegetarian, head of the Enviro Club, always behind the latest move to save energy or resources. Great smile, too. If she didn't have a boyfriend, I might have even tried approaching her, who knows...

-Several other girls, including one who always wore the most adorable overalls with T-shirts; and a couple of the shyer girls always seemed to turn my head. Kinda funny, that.

[maudmac]

Those were the days. I was so stupid! I kept crushing on straight girls. No girls were out at my high school that I knew of. Well, I came out in high school, but, amazingly, everyone I told actually really did keep their mouths shut about it.

There was this one girl. *sighs* Pretty hippy girl, funny, great smile. She spun my head [i:bdbf3e8807] so[/i:bdbf3e8807] hard. We were inseparable most of the summer after I graduated. We'd spend the night at each other's houses and stay up all night talking.

It was [i:bdbf3e8807] torture[/i:bdbf3e8807]. She was sweet and affectionate and seemed to have no idea how I felt about her. I went to great lengths not to stare at her or seem too eager to spend time with her.

Well, naturally, she eventually got a boyfriend and just vanished from my world. Crushing on straight girls always ends badly when they really, really [i:bdbf3e8807] are[/i:bdbf3e8807] straight. I think she's married now and has kids.

I'll never forget her.

[Pagan singer]

Oh God, such a cute thread..

Just to give hope to a few kitten around here, i'd say that secret online crushes always turned right for me.. Maudmac you're right, the internet is the best place to find The One..

A month ago I met this girl on the internet.. on a French board just like this one. I was in a relationship, so when she started flirting with me I just told her that I was not available and we became good friends and confidents on the internet.. But when she is single she's the kind of girl who falls in love with a different woman on the internet every 48 hours, so it was hard to read her telling me how she had a crush on this girl or that girl.. while i was trying hard not to sound too disapointed every time. And it worked, she never knew I had a little crush on her.
Then, when I broke up with my girlfriend we went for a drink.. and we fell in love with each other..
Now she's my everything and the ray of light that shines only for me..

So kitten, don't give up on your secret online crushes! Because when it works, (I know it sounds corny lol) it's like a dream come true..

[VampNo12]

God right now I am severly crushing on a girl who works in a mini mart close to where I live. It's been a month now, and we seem to be flirting, so maybe this crush can turn into something more. What's funny is lately I been going to the store to buy items (even if I don't need them), I mean there is only so much soda one can buy in a one week interval, ). I am now going to extremes of not letting my room-mate leave the door/do her own shopping (ie I demand she give me her grocery list) just so I can see her.

In the past I have had various crushes, one big crush was on my best friends brother. It was "harmless"/quite fun, and we are good friends now. Really when I was younger I would seem to "crush" on older guys, and looking back on it now I think I did because deep down I knew nothing would really come of it (ie it was "safe", a little fun without having to actually have a relationship). I guess in a way I knew I was gay, but didn't at the time want to admit it.

[MadeinNZ]

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[b:88e7ee17d3] Ruth said:[/b:88e7ee17d3] And now I feel better for having got that off my substantially over-large chest

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[/quote:88e7ee17d3] Ruth, you just can't have a thread without mentioning your breasts can you? Of course - its why we love you and I think, if you took a quick poll, you'd be pretty high on the 'Kitten Crushes' list.

As for me, lots of crushes when I was at school - must be that adolescence thing. I remember having a crush on one of the senior girls. I used to follow her around alot. And there must be something about English teachers cause, you know, big time crush.

I think my biggest crush was on a friend of my sister. I became a total spazz when she was around (not a big leap) and was totally obsessed. Thankfully those days are over.

I too have had small crushes on fellow Kittens. Mostly if they make me laugh. Its a thing.

[KJchicago]

[b:9dcabeadf9] Ruth[/b:9dcabeadf9] - gotta say that I love this topic.

Y'all know that I am happily married. However, I have had crushes at different points in my life. But I can truly say that I have not crushed on someone in a VERY long time.

I'm embarrassed and don't dare tell my partner. It's a co-worker and she's just so friendly. And, I worry that I'm really obvious. I've known her for years first as a member of an organization years ago before I started at my current employer and discovered that she worked for the same company.

And, my crush is straight but she has a lot of gay friends so she's very respectful of my relationship whereas most co-workers will try to avoid the topic even though I am WAY OUT and I have pictures of my partner and myself hugging and various poses on my desk> Like I always talk about her and our house, etc. - people can be clueless when they want to be.

Anyway, I feel like a teenager all over again and not sure what to do about it.

[Bookcat]

I've got loads of these. One of whom I'm talking to right now. She's one of the straightest girls ever. She knows I think she's hot, but she has no idea that I've actually got a crush on her. She said "Its just like when one of my guy friends thinks I'm hot!"

Another is a girl from school I just started talking to last June... she's a wonderwoman--She's beautiful, incredibly smart, can sing, act, paint, and write. Especially write. And, she flirts with me! I'm not sure of her sexuality, flirting is good.

And of course, I have some customary kitten crushes. But the "who's" don't matter, now do they really?

[TwiLightJoy]

Now it's not a secret crush ... but I need to share a little Wal*Mart moment. For those of you who don't know, I am a cashier at a so-cal Wal*Mart. My job is very strange, and the most insane things happen. I dare you to go down to Wal*Mart - if you stand in one place long enough, something horrifyingly stupid will happen, I guarentee. So here's today's tale ....

Today was really busy at work, because it's back to school and a holiday, so all the people with [i:fc02850581] real[/i:fc02850581] jobs had the day off. I was ringing up these two ladies who mostly spoke only Spanish, and then I finished with them and I took the next lady in line. She was only getting 3 things, so I put them in a bag and spun the carousel around so her stuff would be facing out for her to take. She gave me the money, that was that - or so I thought. When I was turned around putting her money in the cash drawer and counting her change, the ladies ahead of her just snagged her stuff and left with it! And once we realized what had happened, she was trying to blame [i:fc02850581] me[/i:fc02850581] for it and say it's my responsibility to make sure no one takes her stuff - like that's ever happened to me before. She should have been in the express lane if all she had was three things!

So I am thinking I'm sorry - in my mind, when you put your money in my hand, the stuff is now yours and it's yours to take care of ... like if you leave a bag behind it's your own idiot fault because you paid for it and you should take it upon yourself to leave the store with it. Just as a general rule. My job is to get people out of the store as quickly and politely as possible, not to babysit them and make sure they don't forget their friggin shampoo, or picture frames or shoes or whatever. You pay for the stuff, it's up to you to get it out the door and into your car, coz I'm not paid to chase after people screaming "MA'AM!!!! YOU FORGOT YOUR BABY WIPES!!!" Not to say that I have never done that, because I don't like it when people leave stuff. Then I have to do paperwork for it. I've had people who push empty carts out and don't realize they don't have their stuff til they go to load their car, or worse, until they get home, then frantically call the store asking about their junk.

In conclusion, people are nuts and that lady was stupid. We were nice and replaced the stuff she got stolen from her before she even got out the door. Heehee. Stupid lady.

~Joy

[areslei]

What a lovely little walmart moment. Labor Day has got to be one of the worst holidays to work. People were nuts today. They want you to personally warrant everything (mind you I work at JCPenney jewelry and watch repair) for as long as they want. And if it isn't covered three years later, then you're a crook. Anyway...Amy Ray...that's my not so secret crush. Yep, going on 7 years now. I have to admit that I've had more crushes than I can remember...on almost every girl friend I've had. Almost. Most unforgettable...we were music buddies...I would play guitar and she has the most lovely voice. She was a very close friend until I moved away. Unfortunately, she was totally straight, though everyone thought she was a lesbian. We had the funniest arguments with each other in our sleep, so we're told. :: sigh :: memories.

[Imperfectly Me]

Ok, I'm kinda late in responding to this one, being as it's tuesday now, but oh well. I have officially sworn off the secret crush thing...not so secret crush thing too. My reasoning is this. To want something (i.e. a crush) is a good thing, it's healthy, it keeps your mind up and running, but the disasterous aftereffects are no good at all. I had a secret crush on a close friend of mine since early 2000. We came out to one another, and were always so close that everyone thought we were together. But friends were all we ever were despite my thang for her. Until this July. I finally got what I [b:59ca8750c1] thought[/b:59ca8750c1] I had wanted. She and I got drunk at her place...and one thing led to another. We ended up having sex that night, and a couple times afterwards. Well, at first I was ear to ear grin....then I realized that things had gotten weird between us. The sad thing is, I had started falling for her. But things went bad, and now five years worth of friendship has been washed down the drain. So yeah, be careful what you wish for. That little crush may turn into reality, and sometimes reality really sucks ass.

Aim

[scifiacid]

Oh Ruth! You know I'm the epitome of discretion. I would never air such lusty thoughts about yo hm, shutting up now! Now if you had a "My secret lust thread"... than I'd be ALL over that... hm... yes, very all over indeed!

[xita]

I have a secret crush on the webmistress of Stain and Varnish

[scifiacid]

Oh you!

[xita]

[hush30]

KJchicago I can relate to how ya feel. About 4 or 5 years ago I had a crush on a friend of my partner and I. I didn't know what the hell was going on because I never knew you could be so in love with who you were with and have feelings for someone else at the same time . But there was just this real connection and I know she felt it too. The way I got through it was that I knew I was with the one I loved and wouldn't risk losing her for anything. I fought the guilt that I was doing something wrong because I wasn't and acknowledged that it's bound to happen when there are so many amazing women out there.

I had a really terrible experience at school when I had a crush on a really hot older girl and decided to tell her in a letter. Well she found out who I was because I left some clues (too obvious in hindsight), she told her parents, they told the principal, next minute I'm in the principal's office being grilled and had to go see a social worker for several sessions. I begged them not to tell my parents and thank god they didn't. It was just horrible, I felt like there was something wrong with me and it wasn't like the letter was NC17 or something I just explained my feelings for her and what I liked about her. Over react much! I really don't think they would have reacted quite like that had I been a boy.

P.S. Sorry if I put anyone off who was thinking of sending their secret crush a letter. I think my experience was a rare one? Well I sure as hell hope so!

[kukalaka]

I did some practical training abroad last year, and there was this English girl, who was just adorable and totally perfect (which is a sure sign you're crushing as nobody really is). I only met her for one minute the first day I was there and already was thinking "I'm gonna see [b:e4a4176177] her[/b:e4a4176177] again" the next evening.

We were at a lake going for a swim once and I was in a little cabin to change. Well, there only was one cabin and of course 2 people can totally use the same one... I'll never forgive myself for being to scared to even take the tiniest peek

[WebWarlock]

This is so cute.

I had a crush through out high school on this blond haired green eyed girl. Well it must have affected me because when I got to college I married the first blond haired, green eyed girl I met!

Well, she was the first one I met but we didn't date till almost 5 and half years later and still did not get married till about 2 years after that. It has all been wonderful.

And my crush? Married to some guy I knew back when I was 5, still in the same town. Last I heard though she still looked great.

Warlock