by kisstheviolets » Tue Mar 18, 2008 10:21 am
well, this question could be asking about the end of one's last relationship, or the last one the respondent ended. we'll go with the latter (99.9 of my relationships ended in me being the dumpee).
a couple of years ago i dated a woman we will refer to as BBJ. she was smart and a little offbeat but i thought i'd give it a go. but after a week of her excessive quirks, strange voices, inappropriate curtseying, and all-around oddness, i wanted to end things. my lovely friends, however, had me convinced that i was just trying to find things wrong with her as part of my self-sabotaging pattern. but she really drove me crazy. just an odd girl. and i wasn't very physically attracted to her. six weeks into it i saw her bedroom for the first time (our makeout had been stuck at the level of 12-year-olds, which was strange for me, a second-date kind of girl) and she had LOTR posters and action figures and all of my worst suspicions about her were confirmed. not wanting to tell her that i was dumping her because she was an un-cute geek with a huge ass, i told her that we were clearly at different levels of our sexual development and while i wished her well with it, i was at a place in life where i didn't want to have to walk someone through it by the hand. of course, she told her softball team (which was a rival of my softball team in the same league) that i dumped her because she didn't put out. sigh.
what's a major dealbreaker for you in a new relationship?
"Threads that are golden don't break easily." - Tori Amos, "Horses"